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I am a 12 year old girl i get turned on by anything that has to do with sex now and im confused about my orientation. I don't wanna date girls and i dont think about them romanctially or sexually i play or "masterbaute" to Sex games(rarely i did it today before i came here) but i think about guys romantically. I recently had my period a year ago and this is when these weird feelings came what us my orientation and are these raging hormones. I've never dated or had my first kiss. I am sooo confused
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370181 tn?1595629445
What you are going through is perfectly normal. The onset of puberty is a time of incredible confusion, self-doubt, worry, questioning everything, including your sexual orientation. Most, if not all of this period in your life can be blamed on raging hormones.
If you do not think of girls in a romantic or sexual way, why then do you question your orientation? When you mastubate (also totally normal and healthy) if you fantasize about boys, then I'd say there is no question about your orientation. It is also very normal at this age to have very strong feelings for our girlfriends...........we have this new found sexuality but are too young to really understand what to do with it. It is very common to transfere these feelings onto our girlfriends because we feel safe, we're on known territory with our girlfriends. Boys are still an unknown quantity for us. It's easy to get confused, but you will figure it out soon enough! You are only 12 years old and say you've never dated. I suppose in your eyes I'm a dinosaur, but I personally don't think 12 year olds should be dating at all. I understand that times have changed, but 12 is so young. Too young. I'm sure you disagree with me, but I really think it's best to just let yourself grow into this young woman you're becoming before you dash off and try to date and get kissed. Learn who you are first. You'll have years of dating (AND kissing) ahead of you.
Accept the confusion as part of puberty, but if this continues to really upset you, can you talk to your mother? An aunt? The school nurse? A female teacher you trust?
It would be so much better to talk to somebody than keep all this inside.
No matter what your sexual orientation is, it's just who you are and you should embrace and celebrate it.
Try not to think about this stuff too much. You're entering one of the most incredible periods of life and you should just have as much fun as you can. Everything will eventually become clear.
Peace
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What she means in the Epstein Sexual Orientation. Some ppl get it mixed up with Klein Sexual orientation Test. BTW she means 2.5 ( meaning straight) and 3 (also meaning straight) So shes good just kinky raging hormones
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370181 tn?1595629445
You said that someone recommended..... "the klein test i have the S.O of 2.5 and mean of 3"

I can't find any reference to this test in my medical books or through the Mayo or Cleavland Clinics.
Can you tell me anything more about it?
Thanks
Greenlydia
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:/ really
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^ Thanks Ms. Green . I agree with u one dating and someone recommended the klein test i have the S.O of 2.5 and mean of 3.
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It's part of the human growth cycle. As most humans reach a certain age, they feel certain "impulses" to mate with other humans or appreciate them for their mating capabilities. This is the process that you're undergoing. It will either become fainter as you grow up or remain as a faint background to your life.



(Methinks you are a troll, btw.)
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:I But i cant stop stressing about it. Why do i do this stuff
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2176823 tn?1337539347
This is normal for you age. Don't freak out. You'll be fine as you get older.
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Any help?
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