I can't climax!!!!! arghhh!

[kat25]

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about three months now and I have NEVER climaxed. Don't get me wrong, it feels good and then that's it. I don't get any spine tingling crazy sensation and I wish I did. Any advice, suggestions????
~Thanks~
*Kat*

[Zethu]

Bv what if i am a low self esteem not even sure what im doing is right always think he wil laugh at me or ask what im doing.

[Lapleasure]

I can't climax by intercourse or manually.  I'm fourty-five going through menopause.  It's horrible, I use to be a water fall and now I can't do anything...Have anyone had this problem, seems like a lot of you can climax but by yourself but I can't either way.

By Lapleasure

[ezperez06]

Wow this is awesome I can't believe this is totally normal to not be able to climax. I'm like most girls on here i can do it just fine on my own but never ever had an orgasm during sex. it's horrible and frustratinng. The bad part is that I have always faked it because i would feel bad for the guy.now i feel bad for my self. So some comments said that using a vibrator during sex or rubbing clit helps but what if your bf is not about all that mine will get upset if he knows i am trying to turn my self on. He doens't even knw I have never had an orgasm and we have been together 6 years.......I will try some tips and hopefully it works wish me luch

[meuki]

well, im surprised at how many of u r like me... i mean i cnt orgasm whn im haing sex with my partner. never not once and its been a year. ive tried different positions as well, but still doesnt work. i was worried tht mayb sumthng is worng with me...lol... but i guess im more normal than i thout. i dont know how old thse posts are, but i really wanted to share this.
but i do have an amazaing orgasm with masturbation but never during sex. its kind of wierd. lol... oh nd yes i do enjoy sex alot! its really gud but i dnt get to climax.

its funny how i googled and found ths place. all of you people before me.. thanx alot u guys have really relieved me. *hugs*

[Latrice414]

just wanted to add, pain can b pleasure sometimes. Try having him bit slightly on your nipples or put clothes pins(or some type of clamps) on your nipples, stimulation to the nipples can bring about contractions to the uterus(in a good way, not labor contractions) that would also enhance the sexual experience

[Latrice414]

I just wanted to add, a lot of women dont climax from sex. I think you need to no your body, for example, can you make your self climax by stimulating your gspot, when i was 19ish i could only orgasims from clitoral, then i started learning about my body when i was about 23ish. I no where my gspot is and i can stimulate it, the climax i get from it feels good but a clitoral climax feels BETTER, your mate has to be able to stimualte the gspot, and sometimes continusouly to get the desired affect, and bcuz penis's comes in different forms(straight curved etc) it can b hard. With my DF, i can only climax while laying on my stomache, that is the best postion where his penis can continously stimulate my gspot, and this is without rubbing the clit. NOW, ive just found another position, which is the side lyn position, it takes longer but we are working at it.

Then what enhances all of that is being open with your partner, wanting to feel good, if you go into sex with a whatever attiude you just may get whatever. So have your mind into and think positive.

Also, try some 4play b4 the actually sex, that preps your mind, helps get you moist etc.

Also, particiapte back, the guy does not just have to do u if you are laying down, (sex him back) the thrusting of your pelvic will give you good feelings.(the way as if you masterbate and you move your hips, do that while having sex)

Also, be open with your partner,  if something doesnt feel good TELL HIM, he cant read your mind, you may be misleading him by faking, most men go off of sound and how the women reacts, and come on women, we have all been guilty of faking just so it could be over. If you want the most out of your sexual experience you have to tell him what you like, dont like, hell demonstrate it to him.

My sex life is always in working progress, we strive to make sure we no what one another likes.

Also, if you cant achieve the climax from sex, use a vibrator on your clit while having sex.

This may b TMI but im going to say it anyways, true not all women climax from vaginal but women can get a vaginal and clitoral orgasim, it takes time, and you have to get to no your self and where things are located inside your body. I can stimualte my clit with my hand or vibrator and squrt(pee, whatever you want to call it) and i can also stimualte my gspot(located 2/3rds in my vagina upward) and squrt, and i can do it from sex. So i think its a matter of knowing your body. It took me about 6 years to really get in tune with my body. And when i was single it was hard to explore that because i didnt want to share that with every guy, i was more open once i got into a serious relationship.

Last but not leasttttttttttttt lol. Anal stimulation can also heighten your sexual feelings, thats goes for men and women:)

Well it works for me, i cant say it would work for everyone, but explore your self, you might b amazed at what you find out.