I seriously need reassurance, my labia minora is NOT NORMAL

[your lil' sister]

I think my vagina is very very ugly. the labia minora is a darkened color and it is almost 2 times longer that the outer lips. My boyfriend is a lot more experienced than i am. I've only been with one other guy before him. He says that i am "different", but won't admit whether it turns him off or not. But our sex is still great. i've seen pictures and videos of other people's vaginas and it only makes me feel uglier.
Please tell me that there are others out there with the same "problem". i wish i had a pretty little pink one like the girls in porn clips; but i do not want surgery. We love eachother very much and i don't want this "isseue" to ruin our sexlife due to my lack of self esteem. Big sisters..please help!

[Cardiopulmonary]

As a licensed health-care provider, I find myself a tiny bit irritated because so many of the most beautiful girls think that they are the only ones with 2+ inch labia minora.  I do understand that when uninformed guys make some uninformed comment associating your vagina with something less than tasteful, it hurts.  The first thing I want you to know is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and you are absolutely beautiful!  If some guy wants an eleven year old, then clearly he is the one who is sick!  I also realize that if a gal's labia minora truly do get in the way of your looking good in a bathing suit, for example, that's understandable.  If you can relax a bit, you will discover most, yes most, guys like a gal with large inner labia, and you will easily find the guy of your dreams who will make you feel like the queen you are.  Unless it's simply so problematic that life is truly unbearable, please do yourself a favor and make surgery a last option!!  Labiaplasty, can come with some serious complications that are frequently irreversible, and the last thing you want to do is something that will put you feeling more badly than you did in the first place.  It's not to say that, there is never a time and condition that calls for this surgery; however, it is rare.  If you and your doctor feel this is a good option for you, get a second opinion because different types of surgeons do this procedure differently!  If this procedure is for you, take your time and remember to ask your gynecologist/OB/plastic surgeon every question you can think of!  Seldom do girls maintain a prepubescent style looking vagina, but again, If you find a guy who truly loves you, then you will never hear anything but the truth: that is exactly just how beautiful you truly are!  I also realize that I don't have to live with any such problem, but I do know what an incredibly beautiful and sexy gal looks like, and it's obvious you are more normal than you think.  I think if you only knew how many gals think the same way you have been thinking, it would greatly surprise you!  In the meantime, I suggest you find a real boyfriend and one that is not so insecure about himself that he feels the need to belittle you in order to make himself feel better.  Take care of yourself: there is only one of you, and you are priceless!!

[RiversDawn]

Idiots dont eben realixe there is alot of sexual pleasure for men when a lady has a Labia different from.most

[K_bird]

I have the EXACT same feelings about mine. I've had one boyfriend jokingly teased me about it,, not realizing how self conscious I was. I would like to get surgery just so that I would feel better about myself, but I am in college, barely able to pay bills, and don't have health insurance. But one day I will probably have it done when I can afford it... I've been to a gyno once a couple years ago, and they said I was normal... But I still feel like to some guy, I'm just gunna be "the girl with the ugly vagina"... For now, I guess I'm just trying to reassure myself that it's normal. Unless you get surgery, I guess that's all you can do.

[Zeler]

I feel you too. I have the same problem with my vagina. When I was little, I don't have any knowledge of tha parts of the vagina. I accidentally pulled my labia minora without telling my mom. I was so afraid. And now, it looks ugly. What should I do? I want a natural way to look normal. Please

[allswell007]

Talk to your Mum she will do all she can to support you. My daughter has the same issues and we have looked into it together, she knows that it is normal and that no two people are the same, your Mum will know you are upset and she will be worrie about you. If you can talk with her you could both go to your GP together that way you will have her support and you can both ask questions.

As a Mum I think we would all rather know what was upsetting our children so we can help.

[anom98]

Me to:( I'm only 15 and I'm going through it already, I've never had sex or even masterbated and its happenening to me:( I can't stop crying about it, I'm to embarrassed to talk to my mum or boyfriend about it... What do I do:(

[digdug27]

Are you even still with this guy after six years?

[19992012]

im the exact same way and nothing to be worried about cuz i thought that  was the only one and it started for me when i just started to turn 12 but your not alone...