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I thought Pregnancy WAS a Women's health concern???
Sorry, I understand you don't want people "taking up space", but pregnancy is a legitimate women's health concern, and so is trying to get pregnant. The maternal/child forum fills up VERY quickly, a lot quicker then this one. And yes, from the title of maternal/child it seems more geared towards mothers (already mothers). I post in both spots regarding TTC, but I don't think people should be prevented from posting about it here, since it is a legitimate women's health concern. Sorry for taking up this space, but it needed to be addressed. If you don't want to read about it, then don't read those posts. Maybe there should be a seperate forum for pregnancy/ttc questions altogether??? How do we go about that? I feel I get good answers from BOTH forums, sometimes better from one, sometimes better from the other. Also if there is a more SPECIFIC area, there are other areas as well on this site. Ie.: heart, mental health, dental etc.... Don't make people feel alienated. I think ALL women with ALL kinds of women's health issues should be welcome. God bless everyone and post away!=)
Gee, it really is awfully pro-life to advocate killing doctors and women who have abortions. How loving and caring of you.
You folks are so hypocritical. You scream about abortion being murder, but have no problem with the death penalty or war, no problem killing actual living people. You are really something else.
You folks are so hypocritical. You scream about abortion being murder, but have no problem with the death penalty or war, no problem killing actual living people. You are really something else.
I feel abortion is MURDER. The little "BLOB" (which is what I think most ppl think this is at the early stage) has a freakin' heartbeat so therefore is a living thing. I feel if abortion is legal and ppl have the "RIGHT" to do it then all of the murderers on death row have the right to be free because they took a life as well and I see NO difference. That is my 2 cents and I will NEVER change my views on this. I think the woman and the dr performing the procedure should be held accoutable. It is just sad.
well....so many topics hard to pick one to comment on first:)
TTC/PG forum: love the idea. i love the maternal/child one...i post there frequently. sometimes i do feel like i am invading someone else's party....but i think that is just my own emotions, not anybody's intention. i also have a 8 1/2 yr old son, so it is not an issue to see Q & A about children. but when you are TTCing or expecting....1st or 9th...it is nice to be with others in the same shoes....that goes for everything in life. threads do run out quiclky there and asking a TTC question in an open forum alot of times goes unanswered or feels strange. i love all the input from the ladies but i hate to interup their thread....it makes me feel rude. i think i am less bothered about the AM I PG posts than most others. they do get annoying...especially when there are 5 of them back to back. but i have come to realize that women's cycles can change during different points in her life and if her cycle was one way for 6 yrs and all her symptoms changed, maybe she is looking for some support that she is normal and support her to be brave enough to test. these women know we cannot tell the yes/no...they are just scared and you either really don't want to be PG or really really want to be PG you get nervous and anxious. i tell them that the sign and symptoms they are having are normal for early PG and AF and to go take a PG test if late or 14 DPO. then i move on.
ABORTION: sticky topic. i agree with poetgirl in the fact that it does affect everyone....so does keeping a PG that the father doesn't want. EVERYTHING we do affects others. my son's father wanted me to abort our son....i didn't. he hasn't seen him in 5 yrs...oh well. i am sorry for 'ruining' his life and causing my son to be fatherless for 8 1/2 yrs, but it was MY decision and MY body...and i just couldn't do it. i have DH now and he is adopting my son which everyone wins....ex will no longer owe child support and DS has a loving devoted father. i had a male friend who has a child w/ a woman in another country he pays support and sees his child as much as physically possible...and loves her dearly. he got who he thought was the woman of his dreams PG and she turned around and had an abortion after he begged her not to and MADE HIM PAY FOR IT! it crushed him. it was HER body and ultimately HER decision...she didn't want to have the baby and didn't want him to have either...yes she is very selfish, and i never liked her because she was so mean to my dear friend, but it was her body. i have supported my friend through this awful experience and his severe depression. i feel awful that there was nothing he could do...he is healing and i know he will remember this child forever. when i see an abortion thread...if i am not moody that day...i will go in see if i can offer any advice. i usually give facts...time limits, etc. i DO not give my opinion....just me. i always give all the possible options...have the baby, adoption, and abortion. every woman has the right to be informed about ALL her options no matter what i may personally feel....and abortion is a women's issue. if i am moody and got AF and another BFN....then i just skip those threads all together...it is better for the poster and for my spirit. i would hate offend anyone. sometimes woman are being pressured by their partner and need support to defy this person, or they had one and regret it and feel they need to be forgiven...there are so many possibilities. i think it is harder for PG/TTCers who want to have or are having a baby right now to emotionally handle hearing about abortion or not commenting. all the hormones and the desire to have a baby is so strong it is hurtful and angering to see someone aborting when i/you/we are having a hard time conceiving. so i just put my mood in check and decide if or not i should even open the thread.
thanks for listening to me and i hope everyone has a great weekend...love, hugs, and baby dust....kimmie
TTC/PG forum: love the idea. i love the maternal/child one...i post there frequently. sometimes i do feel like i am invading someone else's party....but i think that is just my own emotions, not anybody's intention. i also have a 8 1/2 yr old son, so it is not an issue to see Q & A about children. but when you are TTCing or expecting....1st or 9th...it is nice to be with others in the same shoes....that goes for everything in life. threads do run out quiclky there and asking a TTC question in an open forum alot of times goes unanswered or feels strange. i love all the input from the ladies but i hate to interup their thread....it makes me feel rude. i think i am less bothered about the AM I PG posts than most others. they do get annoying...especially when there are 5 of them back to back. but i have come to realize that women's cycles can change during different points in her life and if her cycle was one way for 6 yrs and all her symptoms changed, maybe she is looking for some support that she is normal and support her to be brave enough to test. these women know we cannot tell the yes/no...they are just scared and you either really don't want to be PG or really really want to be PG you get nervous and anxious. i tell them that the sign and symptoms they are having are normal for early PG and AF and to go take a PG test if late or 14 DPO. then i move on.
ABORTION: sticky topic. i agree with poetgirl in the fact that it does affect everyone....so does keeping a PG that the father doesn't want. EVERYTHING we do affects others. my son's father wanted me to abort our son....i didn't. he hasn't seen him in 5 yrs...oh well. i am sorry for 'ruining' his life and causing my son to be fatherless for 8 1/2 yrs, but it was MY decision and MY body...and i just couldn't do it. i have DH now and he is adopting my son which everyone wins....ex will no longer owe child support and DS has a loving devoted father. i had a male friend who has a child w/ a woman in another country he pays support and sees his child as much as physically possible...and loves her dearly. he got who he thought was the woman of his dreams PG and she turned around and had an abortion after he begged her not to and MADE HIM PAY FOR IT! it crushed him. it was HER body and ultimately HER decision...she didn't want to have the baby and didn't want him to have either...yes she is very selfish, and i never liked her because she was so mean to my dear friend, but it was her body. i have supported my friend through this awful experience and his severe depression. i feel awful that there was nothing he could do...he is healing and i know he will remember this child forever. when i see an abortion thread...if i am not moody that day...i will go in see if i can offer any advice. i usually give facts...time limits, etc. i DO not give my opinion....just me. i always give all the possible options...have the baby, adoption, and abortion. every woman has the right to be informed about ALL her options no matter what i may personally feel....and abortion is a women's issue. if i am moody and got AF and another BFN....then i just skip those threads all together...it is better for the poster and for my spirit. i would hate offend anyone. sometimes woman are being pressured by their partner and need support to defy this person, or they had one and regret it and feel they need to be forgiven...there are so many possibilities. i think it is harder for PG/TTCers who want to have or are having a baby right now to emotionally handle hearing about abortion or not commenting. all the hormones and the desire to have a baby is so strong it is hurtful and angering to see someone aborting when i/you/we are having a hard time conceiving. so i just put my mood in check and decide if or not i should even open the thread.
thanks for listening to me and i hope everyone has a great weekend...love, hugs, and baby dust....kimmie
Wanting: Don't feel bad, I just feel that we should be able to post about TTC/pregnancy issues. I DO agree the "Am I pregnant" questions can get annoying.
Now regarding abortion, I have copied and pasted a post I posted a few days a go. It was about someone wanting to get pregnant again after an abortion(though I misunderstood and she actually had a miscarraige), but it makes my point a view pretty well:
I am TOTALLY pro-life too, and it's HARD to support someone who has had an abortion, to have a baby. There is such a mix of emotions afterwards though and it's best to WAIT, untill those emotions settle down. I'm going to share with you, my experience with this awful thing called abortion. My husband was married for less then a year when he was 18/19. His ex got pregnant and had an abortion, he couldn't stop her. He regrets it every day. I see how devasting it can be first hand. He has moved on and wants to have kids with me now, we've been married 7 years. His child would have been 9 years old this past August, and even though he is doing well now , I'm sure he will ALWAYS think about that child. When we have kids, he will think about it, when they start to grow and go through what kids do, he will think about it. It hurts me too, because I love him so much. It hurts me, because we have to TRY to get pregnant and she just threw that baby away. So you see, an abortion is not just about the mother and baby, if affects SO many more. I'm sure a lot of guys don't care, but I'm sure of lot of guys DO! But can you see the dominoe effect here? How her one decision affected not just her life, the baby's, but also my husbands and ultimately me? There are so many in this world, on this board probably that would love and gladly adopt a baby someone doesn't want, just because you make one mistake, ie. unprotected sex, doesn't mean making another one will make up for it. Two wrongs do NOT equal a right. Please wait and think hard about your decision... I don't believe in abortion, but I DO belive in forgiveness, and just because you had an abortion, I do not believe you should never be allowed to have another child. But PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, think about it and wait. God bless you!
"Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you;"
Jeremiah 1:4
P.S. Yes I think if someone came on here about abortion, they should be informed both ways. But in a respectful way, which I have tried and hopefully done above. I'm sorry though, I CANNOT keep quiet about this subject. I'm not sorry about my point of view, though.
God bless everyone!!! =)
Now regarding abortion, I have copied and pasted a post I posted a few days a go. It was about someone wanting to get pregnant again after an abortion(though I misunderstood and she actually had a miscarraige), but it makes my point a view pretty well:
I am TOTALLY pro-life too, and it's HARD to support someone who has had an abortion, to have a baby. There is such a mix of emotions afterwards though and it's best to WAIT, untill those emotions settle down. I'm going to share with you, my experience with this awful thing called abortion. My husband was married for less then a year when he was 18/19. His ex got pregnant and had an abortion, he couldn't stop her. He regrets it every day. I see how devasting it can be first hand. He has moved on and wants to have kids with me now, we've been married 7 years. His child would have been 9 years old this past August, and even though he is doing well now , I'm sure he will ALWAYS think about that child. When we have kids, he will think about it, when they start to grow and go through what kids do, he will think about it. It hurts me too, because I love him so much. It hurts me, because we have to TRY to get pregnant and she just threw that baby away. So you see, an abortion is not just about the mother and baby, if affects SO many more. I'm sure a lot of guys don't care, but I'm sure of lot of guys DO! But can you see the dominoe effect here? How her one decision affected not just her life, the baby's, but also my husbands and ultimately me? There are so many in this world, on this board probably that would love and gladly adopt a baby someone doesn't want, just because you make one mistake, ie. unprotected sex, doesn't mean making another one will make up for it. Two wrongs do NOT equal a right. Please wait and think hard about your decision... I don't believe in abortion, but I DO belive in forgiveness, and just because you had an abortion, I do not believe you should never be allowed to have another child. But PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, think about it and wait. God bless you!
"Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you;"
Jeremiah 1:4
P.S. Yes I think if someone came on here about abortion, they should be informed both ways. But in a respectful way, which I have tried and hopefully done above. I'm sorry though, I CANNOT keep quiet about this subject. I'm not sorry about my point of view, though.
God bless everyone!!! =)
I agree with you as well as everyone else. We all are entitled to our opinion.
EVERYONE - I seemed to have started something with my posting.... I didn't mean for it to get like this! I should have kept my opinion in my head and not put it on here. But I say what I feel. Sorry if I offended anyone and go ahead and post whatever questions you have, be it TTC or whatever. Like someone said above this somewhere, we all don't have to read every post if we don't feel it is what we are here for that day. We are all here to seek the opinions of others. I have appreciated all of the opinions I have receive so far from my postings here, and in Maternal-child so will respect all of your future postings and try and give my opinion the best I can if I feel I am able to help!
Thanks ladies, have a great one!
*Wanting
EVERYONE - I seemed to have started something with my posting.... I didn't mean for it to get like this! I should have kept my opinion in my head and not put it on here. But I say what I feel. Sorry if I offended anyone and go ahead and post whatever questions you have, be it TTC or whatever. Like someone said above this somewhere, we all don't have to read every post if we don't feel it is what we are here for that day. We are all here to seek the opinions of others. I have appreciated all of the opinions I have receive so far from my postings here, and in Maternal-child so will respect all of your future postings and try and give my opinion the best I can if I feel I am able to help!
Thanks ladies, have a great one!
*Wanting
what happened to the post from med help stating that? when i first read it initially, i took it as saying its okay/fine to post about pregnancy or possibly pregnant because it is a womans health issue but when you post, dont word it "am i pregnant"? or "am i not"? we cannot determine whether or not someone is pregnant since they need to confirm it with a dr. that was my first instinct after reading it but i went to re-read it and its gone. thats just how i took it.
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