Is my friend making up her pregnancy?

[indypendence]

I have been friends with this woman for a few years. She is always very dramatic about everything. She always makes a mountain out of a molehill. She has tried to have me lie for her in the past to other people. I also believe that she has lied to me or stretched the truth to me plenty of times in the past. I even believe that she made up a boyfriend at one time (she lived out of state). This past year, she has been desperately trying to get this guy to like her/date her. He is gay. A month or so ago she claimed that they kissed. That was it. Since then, he has been distant. This week, she told me she is pregnant with his child. I asked her how that could be. She now said that she thought she dreamed that they had sex, but that they must have really had sex as she is pregnant. I asked if she had been drinking that night to impair her judgment. She said no. So, apparently, although she can't really remember having sex with him, she is now pregnant with his child. She said that she told HIM she was pregnant, but that she wouldn't tell him who the father was -- and that she was not going to tell the father he was the father -- that she was just going to raise it on her own. She told ME that she is pregnant with his child. Well, he has not spoken to her since she told him that (which was a week ago). In the back of my mind, I always wondered if she was making some kind of play to get him into a relationship with her. I wondered if she would later call me and tell me she had a miscarriage. Well, 4 days after she told me she was pregnant, she "suddenly" had a miscarriage. I don't know what to think. My gut is telling me this was all an elaborate hoax for attention, however, I do not want to end a friendship if this scenario really did happen. I myself have had a miscarriage in the past, which this friend knows about. It would hurt me a lot if I found out she was faking this, as this was a real life situation I lived through -- a painful one and not one to be joked about. Can anyone give me advice, as an outsider looking in?

[emtd65]

You cannot provide the kind of help or support she needs. Her problems go much deeper then her having a miscarriage etc. You know how she is and she will not change until she comes to terms with herself and her issues. You are enabling her by giving her your sympathy etc. You would be best off seperating yourself from her. Maybe you can suggest she seek professional help to help her deal with her miscarriage which may lead to her indirectly getting help with her real issues at hand.

Christine

[Hayley723]

I think she's lying...she is a liar and has lied in the past and will continue to. You need to dump her ***!!!