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LIPS OF VAGINA DISCOLORED
Over the last year i have noticed an area on my inner labia that is darker purple. I used to thing it was just wierd skin because its on my bigger labia and i thought it was just hangy skin. My problem is that the area is getting bigger. Even when i spread the skin, the discoloration stays. Could I have done this by having too much sex?
Okaii this is whats up; I have that too and im only 14 -.- And im still a virgin! Now tell me how does having sex with a guy have anything to do with this? I know its not cutee having that but i've always had itt well ever since i can remember; I actually think its normal.
well if you genuinely love her then you shouldn't let it bother you. she clearly loves you enough to be with you in 'that' way and, considering i'm a female with a very similar issue, I know for a fact it takes a lot of courage to let a guy see those issues. Just dont do anything to hurt her self esteem
well well. im 12.... girf, its really annoying, very dark red and even purple at times. (usually during baths) i hate it sooo mucchhhh!!! stupid insecurities lol.
I am actually concerned about my girl friends vagina. She is only 24 byt her lips are black. It does turn me off although I dont show that. Deep in my heart i do wish them to be as pretty as the rest of her. She has amazing figure, boobs to die for and frankly I was not expecting that the vagina would be the way it was. Now can someone advice as to what should I do? I genuinely love her and want to be with her for the rest of my life but I am very confused about the way i feel about her vagina.
Sorry, forgot to mention a key idea that got lost in my brain whilst writing the above!! (brain is not one of my better parts, I'm afraid! :-)
I neglected to mention that I am a big fan of female self-examination. Not just breast palpation, which is extremely important, but vulvar as well. Don't worry, I am not saying you have to use a speculum, although I do from time to time, with cheap, single-use disposables you can find online; just a simple and quick mirror check of the vulva on a regular basis to view, learn, and monitor for changes. Who could be better trusted as the expert of you than YOU, right?! I have become so adept at my appearance that I have actually headed off lots of problems since I started doing this a few years ago. Why wouldn't a woman want to know what's going on in this area? Can't think of a good reason :-) Take care!
I neglected to mention that I am a big fan of female self-examination. Not just breast palpation, which is extremely important, but vulvar as well. Don't worry, I am not saying you have to use a speculum, although I do from time to time, with cheap, single-use disposables you can find online; just a simple and quick mirror check of the vulva on a regular basis to view, learn, and monitor for changes. Who could be better trusted as the expert of you than YOU, right?! I have become so adept at my appearance that I have actually headed off lots of problems since I started doing this a few years ago. Why wouldn't a woman want to know what's going on in this area? Can't think of a good reason :-) Take care!
To YOUSTILLARELOVELY!!! 713
Listen, Luv, you are not alone in this type of anxiety by any stretch of the imagination. This forum is filled with concerns about health (of course ALL health concerns are valid by definition), but I have found that a "significant some" of these are really causing heartburn, stress, worry, relationship strains, and all kinds of other burdens UNNECESSARILY. I hate using all-caps, but I hope my reluctance emphasises my passion about this thing, which I refer to as "misguided perception".
What I simply mean is that we all "perceive" our bodies against some reference, or standard. I constantly try to preach against women comparing their self-images to fake media stereotypes (magazines, ads, tv, movies, conventional wisdom, you name it).
I especially caution us older ladies to guard against the temptation to compare ourselves, our shapes, our genitalia, our breasts even to our own younger selves. The biological fact is that we change, and we improve, and sometimes things go wrong, but I always try to pause and reflect on things that really matters...
If I am having discomfort or true symptoms of illness or disease, I research it and seek my doc. If I am having relationship troubles, I try to see things through the other person's eyes, and if that doesn't work, I try to see things through His eyes.
If I am having perception problems with my body (Oh, and I HAVE!!), I try to count my blessings and focus on the parts of me that work better than others, and dismiss the ones I WISH I could change!!! It works.
lovelyme713, do you realise, my dear, that in denying youself oral pleasure from your man, WHO DESIRES IT!!!, that you are also denying yourself one of the great lovemaking tools for your own pleasure??
Not trying to be judgmental, nor am I nagging you. I am just trying to give you some support and a reality check that men do NOT approach intimacy the way we do. And the most assuredly do not care if your bottom looks the way it used to or the way you think a vulva "should".
Sorry for the longish response, but you hit a painful nerve with me, and I have grown to accept life, happiness, and a wonderful marriage. All I had to do was lose my bogus perceptions. Hope this helped!!!
Listen, Luv, you are not alone in this type of anxiety by any stretch of the imagination. This forum is filled with concerns about health (of course ALL health concerns are valid by definition), but I have found that a "significant some" of these are really causing heartburn, stress, worry, relationship strains, and all kinds of other burdens UNNECESSARILY. I hate using all-caps, but I hope my reluctance emphasises my passion about this thing, which I refer to as "misguided perception".
What I simply mean is that we all "perceive" our bodies against some reference, or standard. I constantly try to preach against women comparing their self-images to fake media stereotypes (magazines, ads, tv, movies, conventional wisdom, you name it).
I especially caution us older ladies to guard against the temptation to compare ourselves, our shapes, our genitalia, our breasts even to our own younger selves. The biological fact is that we change, and we improve, and sometimes things go wrong, but I always try to pause and reflect on things that really matters...
If I am having discomfort or true symptoms of illness or disease, I research it and seek my doc. If I am having relationship troubles, I try to see things through the other person's eyes, and if that doesn't work, I try to see things through His eyes.
If I am having perception problems with my body (Oh, and I HAVE!!), I try to count my blessings and focus on the parts of me that work better than others, and dismiss the ones I WISH I could change!!! It works.
lovelyme713, do you realise, my dear, that in denying youself oral pleasure from your man, WHO DESIRES IT!!!, that you are also denying yourself one of the great lovemaking tools for your own pleasure??
Not trying to be judgmental, nor am I nagging you. I am just trying to give you some support and a reality check that men do NOT approach intimacy the way we do. And the most assuredly do not care if your bottom looks the way it used to or the way you think a vulva "should".
Sorry for the longish response, but you hit a painful nerve with me, and I have grown to accept life, happiness, and a wonderful marriage. All I had to do was lose my bogus perceptions. Hope this helped!!!
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