Pain During Intercourse

[RandomPerson001]

Hello, my girlfriend and I have been having sex for a while now. But as of lately the opening to her vagina has caused pain for her. It seems to hurt herself whenever I insert myself, but fingers are fine. Has anyone heard of this problem? And is there anything that is do able to help this?

[RandomPerson001]

Okay. Thank you very much for your help. I am more concerned for her health then our sex life which is why I looked for help on the subject. She is my number one priority, and she knows that, i was just trying to look for help as she is easily embarrassed in any discussions of sex.

Thank you very much again.

[AnnieBrooke]

My suggestion is that for a while you guys should use fingers only.  Especially, you should be the tender and considerate boyfriend you sound like you are, and not do anything that would make her feel guilty or more anxious.  You have shown your concern for her, the next step is hers.  There are a lot of satisfactory activities you two can do that do not involve penetration.  Let her take the lead in solving the issue, don't you take the lead in it because it risks looking like you are concerned only out of your own self-interest (i.e., because you want to keep having sex).  Since you care, give her a bye on the insertion and have fun with other ways.  It could change the whole dynamic for you both.

[RandomPerson001]

We do use lubrications and lubricated condoms. She claims it is the opening, not just during initial insertion but it is painful during the entire act. She was fearful to tell me why she had been wanting sex less and less until recient, and she is hesitant to ask a doctor about it. She does currently have a low white blood cell count. Any suggestions on what it could be, or something to convince she really should seek her doctor would be greatly appreciated.

[AnnieBrooke]

It is probably that she needs some lubricant.  Are you using lubricated condoms?  Also, you sound like a caring guy to ask this, one thing that might be in the mix for her is anxiety.  If something about you having sex is not really OK with her (and she is doing it anyway, for example, to please you), she could be subconsciously tensing and it would cause the muscles there to make insertion painful.  You might ask sympathetically if sex is OK with her, either for moral reasons, birth-control reasons, or STD fears, or for some other reason (performance anxiety can cause this too).  Be nice to her, she's not having fun if sex hurts.