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Pregenancy after abortion
Thank u very much for comments about my previous question. Only greenpixie understands my feeling. Actually English is not my first language. So some people relize it diffrent way. Actually i did not got abortion at my own. It was misscarriage after 3 months. Now once agains your comments are expected
I just wanted to copy my original post here. I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. But no matter what I WON'T change my mind about abortion, and I will NOT keep quiet when the subject comes up, just like Blondie said. I just wanted to reiterate my thoughts on the subject:
I am totally pro-life too, and it's HARD to support someone who has had an abortion, to have a baby. There is such a mix of emotions afterwards though and it's best to WAIT, untill those emotions settle down. I'm going to share with you, my experience with this awful thing called abortion. My husband was married for less then a year when he was 18/19. His ex got pregnant and had an abortion, he couldn't stop her. He regrets it every day. I see how devasting it can be first hand. He has moved on and wants to have kids with me now, we've been married 7 years. His child would have been 9 years old this past August, and even though he is doing well now , I'm sure he will ALWAYS think about that child. When we have kids, he will think about it, when they start to grow and go through what kids do, he will think about it. It hurts me too, because I love him so much. It hurts me, because we have to TRY to get pregnant and she just threw that baby away. There are so many in this world, on this board probably that would love and gladly adopt a baby someone doesn't want, just because you make one mistake, ie. unprotected sex, doesn't mean making another one will make up for it. Two wrongs do NOT equal a right. Please wait and think hard about your decision... I don't believe in abortion, but I DO belive in forgiveness, and just because you had an abortion, I do not believe you should never be allowed to have another child. But PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, think about it and wait. God bless you!
"Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you;"
Jeremiah 1:4
I am totally pro-life too, and it's HARD to support someone who has had an abortion, to have a baby. There is such a mix of emotions afterwards though and it's best to WAIT, untill those emotions settle down. I'm going to share with you, my experience with this awful thing called abortion. My husband was married for less then a year when he was 18/19. His ex got pregnant and had an abortion, he couldn't stop her. He regrets it every day. I see how devasting it can be first hand. He has moved on and wants to have kids with me now, we've been married 7 years. His child would have been 9 years old this past August, and even though he is doing well now , I'm sure he will ALWAYS think about that child. When we have kids, he will think about it, when they start to grow and go through what kids do, he will think about it. It hurts me too, because I love him so much. It hurts me, because we have to TRY to get pregnant and she just threw that baby away. There are so many in this world, on this board probably that would love and gladly adopt a baby someone doesn't want, just because you make one mistake, ie. unprotected sex, doesn't mean making another one will make up for it. Two wrongs do NOT equal a right. Please wait and think hard about your decision... I don't believe in abortion, but I DO belive in forgiveness, and just because you had an abortion, I do not believe you should never be allowed to have another child. But PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, think about it and wait. God bless you!
"Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you;"
Jeremiah 1:4
Same here, but this forum is about all womens issues, and abortion may be mentioned. If it is upsetting to you, please just pass over that post.
Love ya, but this forum is different from the Maternal-child forum where a lot of the focus is on TTC, pregnancy, and loss. We don't need another Maternal-Child forum--this one is just for all womens issues, and abortion is one of them.
Love ya, but this forum is different from the Maternal-child forum where a lot of the focus is on TTC, pregnancy, and loss. We don't need another Maternal-Child forum--this one is just for all womens issues, and abortion is one of them.
I have said it once and I will say it again if I see an actual abortion post ANYWHERE I will NOT keep quiet about it and I do not care if I come off as rude. It IS murder and it IS wrong. About this poster though I did apologize for the misunderstanding. Take Care ladies.
Sorry to disagree Chrisie. U know I love & respect ya!!!!!!
Sorry to disagree Chrisie. U know I love & respect ya!!!!!!
I just want to clear the air in here. I was not trying to be rude, but if thats how I came across, then I do apologize. I understand that everyine has their own opinion and I also understand that the topic of abortion will upset different people. I was just a little shocked at some people's reactions to the original question.
I apoligize for being rude in my earlier posts. I don't know about miscarriages so I can't help but I am sorry for being so rude.
-Savanah-
-Savanah-
things are getting confusing now. origionally the poster stated "i got an abortion on.." and the #@*& hit the fan because not only did we think she had an abortion but wanted to be pregnant again. then was it greenpixie? who thought perhaps the poster meant miscarrage, spontaneous abortion and apparently that was the case..a miscarriage. i am surprised greenpixie caught that because the post could not have been more clearly stated.."i got an abortion on.." so how else were we supposed to take it? good eye greenpixie for detecting there could be a misunderstanding due to english as a 2nd language.
A womens forum should address all types of problems a woman might experience--this might include abortion.
If abortion upsets someone, they shouldn't respond. The maternal-child forum might be a better place for those upset by a choice someone else makes.
Hopefully I didn't come off as rude to the poster. I was just concerned that I thought she had an abortion and then 8 weeks later wanted a baby. I just wanted her to consider that this was very quick to make a 180 degree turn. I don't condemn anyone for their choices. I am only responsible for MY choices.
Anyway, most of us were mistaken about the subject, and I again offer my apologies to the original poster for the misunderstanding.
If abortion upsets someone, they shouldn't respond. The maternal-child forum might be a better place for those upset by a choice someone else makes.
Hopefully I didn't come off as rude to the poster. I was just concerned that I thought she had an abortion and then 8 weeks later wanted a baby. I just wanted her to consider that this was very quick to make a 180 degree turn. I don't condemn anyone for their choices. I am only responsible for MY choices.
Anyway, most of us were mistaken about the subject, and I again offer my apologies to the original poster for the misunderstanding.
Yes this is a SUPPORT forum, so, just like if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all, If you don't have any SUPPORT to give, don't say anything at all. Silence is just as much of a response as rude criticism is.
I'm very sorry for your loss. It must have been very tough.
There are mixed feelings about your question (when to try again). Some doctors say to wait 3 months after a miscarriage to allow your body to heal. Some doctors say if you feel emotionally ready then you can try now.
You should consult your doctor because he knows your particular situation and can advise you accordingly.
There are mixed feelings about your question (when to try again). Some doctors say to wait 3 months after a miscarriage to allow your body to heal. Some doctors say if you feel emotionally ready then you can try now.
You should consult your doctor because he knows your particular situation and can advise you accordingly.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I would suggest that you consult with your doctor and ask him/her when it would be appropriate to conceive again. Good luck and I hope the next time around is a 9 month success!
This is a SUPPORT forum, but should we all support killing a baby through abortion when so many women on this forum are un able to concieve??? It must be a big slap in the face to all of those who desperetly want a child.Should we support the some who feel they can just kill a living being for their "situation"???
I am sorry to hear that Goshing, I have been through several miscarriages, and I was always told to wait at least 3 months before trying. I finally was able to have my only baby. (After 7 miscarraiges). SO I want to wish you lots of luck.
As for everyone who was so judgemental as her first question was posted, shame on you. I always felt that this is a SUPPORT forum. I just recently started coming here and I am pretty disappointed. Even if she did have an actual abortion, nobody knows the circumstances except for her. I will say one thing, I had an abortion after my son was born because the docs told me that my chances of carrying another baby was 25-40%. It tore me apart to do it, but I could not go thru the emotional anguish of planning and being so excited to being devestated with another miscarriage.
As for everyone who was so judgemental as her first question was posted, shame on you. I always felt that this is a SUPPORT forum. I just recently started coming here and I am pretty disappointed. Even if she did have an actual abortion, nobody knows the circumstances except for her. I will say one thing, I had an abortion after my son was born because the docs told me that my chances of carrying another baby was 25-40%. It tore me apart to do it, but I could not go thru the emotional anguish of planning and being so excited to being devestated with another miscarriage.
What a misunderstanding--I am so sorry. Abortion is more commonly used to describe a voluntary termination of a pregnancy, but I wish I and the others would have understood what you meant.
You may try again when you feel ready emotionally and physically unless your doctor has specifically advised you to wait a certain length of time.
You may try again when you feel ready emotionally and physically unless your doctor has specifically advised you to wait a certain length of time.
Sorry about the miscarriage and sorry I was rude in my other post. I thought you had decided on your own to terminate and I do not take kindly to that. Well I to had a m/c 2 yrs ago. They could not find a heartbeat so they sent me in for a D&C. You can start trying as soon as you feel ready to try. I was pg again in just 3 months. Good Luck to you.
so sorry to hear about your loss. this has happened to me too in the past. it is ok to start trying again after 3 months.
I have not personally experienced miscarriage, but a good friend of mine went through several, some of them were past the 5 month mark. I know that it must be really difficult for you, as loss is always difficult. If this is your first miscarriage then there may not be any real problem. Sometime it just happens for unknown reasons. If it happens again then you should begin testing to see what is causing it. Two common reasons are low progesterone, and a clotting disorder (this is what my friend had). Both of those can be treated. Whatever the case, be sure you talk to your DR. I hope that you are able to have a healthy pregnancy next time. Best of luck to you.
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