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Pregnant and not happy
I've just found out this morning tha I'm pregnant and my initial reaction was to burst in to tears and horror. I do not want another baby. I have a 3 year old and my DD has just turned 1. I am content with my life as it is. i've told my DH, and while I thought he would "tell" me I'm having the baby, he considered my feelings and we'll be talking about it tonight.
I'm about 6 weeks? What happens with a termination? Am I still at the stage where they give me a pill to take?
I'm about 6 weeks? What happens with a termination? Am I still at the stage where they give me a pill to take?
chel, I know you're scared and dreading the PPD that you may encounter. I say MAY because each pregnancy is different. My sister had PPD and I believe there's drugs and ways to help you through that.
I know what that's like to find out you're pregnant when you didn't want or plan on another. Let you tell you a little of my story. My family went through a very dark time with two deaths and one near death in our extended family. We wondered if we'd ever feel joy again. After the death of my grandmother whom I was very close to (closer than my own mother) I found out I was pregnant. I was in shock. I already had a 12 year old and a 16 year old. We had not planned or wanted another one. I was already 39 at the time and knew the risks of being an older mom. I think my husband and I walked around in shock the first few weeks after we found out. We didn't even tell anyone for awhile yet. We were panicking. We didn't feel like we could afford another child. And I liked the fact that my kids were older and more independent and I could do more for myself. I had just completed schooling for my CNA lisence and was looking forward to going back to work. This was just not good timing! Or so I thought. God, I believe, had other plans. Even though I worried in my pregnancy of any complications I could have being an older mom, everything went smoothly in my pregnancy. And here's the miracle (and yes I believe it was a "God thing"). My son was born naturally without being induced exactly one year to the day that we buried my grandmother. My family was overjoyed. My mom was thrilled with being a grandmother again. Do I think this was a coincidence? No, I don't. We felt strongly that God was telling us where there was death, He was bringing new life. And He not only brought this new life, this little miracle, into our lives, but our little boy is the sweetest, loving, precious child. That's why his name is Lucas. It means "bringer of light". And we felt like he brought light back into our lives. My older kids, now 15 and 19, adore him. And we can't even imagine life without him now. Every time I look at his sweet face and think how we could have not had him had we taken the means to make sure we never had children again, I'm just in awe over what God has brought us. Yes, I do believe that every child is God planned and a miracle whether or not you planned it or not. Every life is precious and worthy even while still in the womb. It is a baby. It is a seperate being with it's own soul and deserves the right to be born and live a full life.
Please, please be brave enough for the sake of this baby's life to give him or her a chance at life.
I believe in the power of prayer and I will pray that this would be an uneventful pregnancy and that you wouldn't even get the PPD or if you do that it would be mild enough to be controled. Give God a chance. He really can do miracles!
I know what that's like to find out you're pregnant when you didn't want or plan on another. Let you tell you a little of my story. My family went through a very dark time with two deaths and one near death in our extended family. We wondered if we'd ever feel joy again. After the death of my grandmother whom I was very close to (closer than my own mother) I found out I was pregnant. I was in shock. I already had a 12 year old and a 16 year old. We had not planned or wanted another one. I was already 39 at the time and knew the risks of being an older mom. I think my husband and I walked around in shock the first few weeks after we found out. We didn't even tell anyone for awhile yet. We were panicking. We didn't feel like we could afford another child. And I liked the fact that my kids were older and more independent and I could do more for myself. I had just completed schooling for my CNA lisence and was looking forward to going back to work. This was just not good timing! Or so I thought. God, I believe, had other plans. Even though I worried in my pregnancy of any complications I could have being an older mom, everything went smoothly in my pregnancy. And here's the miracle (and yes I believe it was a "God thing"). My son was born naturally without being induced exactly one year to the day that we buried my grandmother. My family was overjoyed. My mom was thrilled with being a grandmother again. Do I think this was a coincidence? No, I don't. We felt strongly that God was telling us where there was death, He was bringing new life. And He not only brought this new life, this little miracle, into our lives, but our little boy is the sweetest, loving, precious child. That's why his name is Lucas. It means "bringer of light". And we felt like he brought light back into our lives. My older kids, now 15 and 19, adore him. And we can't even imagine life without him now. Every time I look at his sweet face and think how we could have not had him had we taken the means to make sure we never had children again, I'm just in awe over what God has brought us. Yes, I do believe that every child is God planned and a miracle whether or not you planned it or not. Every life is precious and worthy even while still in the womb. It is a baby. It is a seperate being with it's own soul and deserves the right to be born and live a full life.
Please, please be brave enough for the sake of this baby's life to give him or her a chance at life.
I believe in the power of prayer and I will pray that this would be an uneventful pregnancy and that you wouldn't even get the PPD or if you do that it would be mild enough to be controled. Give God a chance. He really can do miracles!
It's been over a week since I found out I am pregnant and I am so confused. One minute I hate myself for getting in to this situation, feeling like my body is being invaded, feeling resentment, alone, depressed and I feel like I know that this can't continue. But then the next minute I still feel all of the above, but don't think I could terminate the pregnancy.
This is horrible. And I know this can be a sensitive subject for some people, so I am very sorry, but I am genuinely in need of some advice and someone to talk to.
This is horrible. And I know this can be a sensitive subject for some people, so I am very sorry, but I am genuinely in need of some advice and someone to talk to.
yeah she told me that.
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On this forum, we mean dear husband when we say DH.
I would keep the options open, honey. I am one of those who tried for years to get pregnant, but I would not wish an unwanted pregnancy on any person. Talk to your husband and think hard and listen to your heart.
I would keep the options open, honey. I am one of those who tried for years to get pregnant, but I would not wish an unwanted pregnancy on any person. Talk to your husband and think hard and listen to your heart.
Oh good to know I was thinking it meant divorced husband. :)
Whatever you decide, just make sure you talk to people, and find someone that you can talk to outside of your family.
I am sure everything will work out the way it is suppose to.
Good luck.
Whatever you decide, just make sure you talk to people, and find someone that you can talk to outside of your family.
I am sure everything will work out the way it is suppose to.
Good luck.
Thank you Laura. Sorry, on other forums I have posted on before DH means Dear Husband, so we are still very much together.
Before now, termination was, not something I was against because people have their own circumstances to deal with, but it was something I never thought I would even consider. But now I'm in this situation it is one option, along with the other options I have, that I have seriously considered. I won't go in to depth about how severe my PND actually was, and still can be TBH, but I do know that having this baby and not having this baby are both going to affect me greatly and bring their own problems along with it.
It's something I have been thinking about in great depth, I've thought about nothing else, but I do have some more thinking and deciding to do.
Before now, termination was, not something I was against because people have their own circumstances to deal with, but it was something I never thought I would even consider. But now I'm in this situation it is one option, along with the other options I have, that I have seriously considered. I won't go in to depth about how severe my PND actually was, and still can be TBH, but I do know that having this baby and not having this baby are both going to affect me greatly and bring their own problems along with it.
It's something I have been thinking about in great depth, I've thought about nothing else, but I do have some more thinking and deciding to do.
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