Scared and unsure what to do..

[worriedgirl12217]

I went out on Friday with friends and I got plastered. I had blacked out in the middle of the night but eventually came back. I was flirting a lot and I remember dancing promiscuously with a guy and his hands were in my pants. The next day when I woke up, I had this feeling of dread. My vagina feels odd, but not painful I am just aware of it it's not sensitive, maybe I am paranoid. People do have sex in clubs and my friends couldn't find me for a bit.

I am a virgin and I feel like I would know if I had sex because  I even cringe at the gyno, but if I was aroused enough it may not be sore. And there was no blood. I'm just unsure of a course of action. Should I make an appointment at my gyno for an exam, Can they even see if my hymen is intact... they might not even be able to tell. Should I go to a clinic to get HIV prophylaxis and morning after pill? It's so embarrassing to say that i got drunk and don't know what happened.. but I know that for some things there is only a short window of time. I have been drunk before and never go all the way, so I don't know if this would be different.

I am an idiot and will have to deal with the consequences of this, I just want to do what I can. I need to stop the drinking and reckless behavior.. it is not me.

Any advice would be helpful, I am so concerned.

[thatquietgirl]

Your hymen is not necessarily a good indicator of virginity.  In this day and age, so many girls have their hymens rip due to exercise or rough housing years before they ever even know what sex is or have sex.

Annie gives good advice regarding your other questions, and I would definitely follow it.  I just wanted to point this out.

Also, please note that you were plastered, so sex is not necessarily consensual if it did happen, and there may be emotional ramifications even with the notion it might have happened being in your mind.  Please don't hesitate to talk with someone, whether a close friend or relative, your doctor, or a therapist.

[AnnieBrooke]

If you think there is a serious chance you had sex, and if it is anywhere near the middle of your cycle, take Plan B and few would point your fingers at you.  If you decide to do it, do so today (tomorrow at the latest).  It's said to be most effective within the first 48 hours, and not recommended after more than 72 hours have elapsed.

You should also go to the doc and discuss what happened in order to get tested for STDs.

And, I suppose it goes without saying, getting plastered and blacking out is not the best way of managing your life.  I had a dear girlfriend who went in for weekend binge drinking, and it got her into all kinds of serious incidents, from unwanted sex to passing out at a black-tie formal in law school for the members of the Law Review (where she was one of the honorees).  She never drank during the week, so wouldn't have thought of herself as an alcoholic, but ... read the descriptions of alcoholism and they all mention binge drinking as an early step.