Unwanted Pregnancy

[Key27]

am not sure this is the correct forum for this discussion, but if I offend anyone, I am sorry.  I am in my late 20's and have a 21 month old.  I just found out about 2 weeks ago, I am pregnant.  I am not married and the father of the child does not want any children (I don't think he is going to be involved).  I don't know what to do.  I don't want to put up for adoption.  My only options are to have the baby or not to.  I am so confused and hurt.  On one hand, I want to have it and on the other hand my 21 month old is enough for me to handle right now.  I also have a full-time job.

Basically, I will be a single working mother of two.  I am not asking for judgement or put downs.  I am sure that everyone have a political and moral stand put on this issue.  I don't mean to upset anyone.  I just need some honest and nonjudgemental advice.

[meyan]

You have to do what is right for you. Only you know what that answer is. Whatever you decide: to abort, have and keep the baby or adopt, any decision is going to be hard and there will be grief. What ever you decide will ultimately be the right decision for the future no matter how dark the present looks. Believe in your instincts. Take care.

[SweetiePie411]

I don't find abortion as an option in any pregnancy. I think it's wrong to kill an innocent baby because the parents aren't ready. Once the baby would actually arrive, the 21 month old would be a little older. Maybe the father of the child could take care of the 21 month old while you take care of the baby. The father needs to step up and accept the consequences of sex. I really don't agree with adoption either because then you are giving your baby away. I still see some plus sides of adoption, but I have more negative things to say about it. I think you should keep the baby. If the father can't accept the consequences, then he isn't the guy for you. Sorry if I insulted or hurt you in any way. I wasn't planning on doing that. I wish you and your little family the best of luck!

[Cinderellacute06]

I understand what your going through, I am only 19 and I think I am pregnant... For me abortion is not an option for me, and I could never give my baby up for adoption. the only REAL reason abortion is not an option for me, if because it is something I will have to live with the rest of my life. I hear all the time of woman that beat theirselves up everynight because they had an abortion. I know personally I wouldn't be able to handle it. And I have never heard of a "sane" mother that has wished she had had an abortion with one of her children. Look at your baby girl...If you could go back, would you have had an abortion?? Obviously I can gaurantee it won't be easy, but you seem like a loving person, and that's all you really need to have steaghth to make it as a single mother of two. I bet when you were pregnant with your first you were probably scared as ever.... I am not trying to persuade you in any way, this is just how I look at it, and I hate seeing peoples lives ruined because of fright.


If you need anything or just someone to talk to feel free to e-mail me, I may only be 19, but I'll listen