Want to get Pregnant ,fiance in jail...Help??????

[Nicki1881]

Hi , i am 25 years old and have been with my fiance for many years. He has been in jail for a year and isn't getting out for another year. I miss him dearly and want to have his baby. Our lawyer can meet with him and bring me mail, food etc from him. I am having him masturbate into a clean,sterile container ,put the lid on it and put it in an envelope for the lawyer to give to me immediately I was planning on then putting the sperm within the hour of course into my vagina and praying for the best. Will this work??? Do you know any other ways we could do this???/Please help with some advice.....How long will it last? How do I get the sperm inside me????/HElp????

[AnnieBrooke]

There is a lot to be said for waiting.  Pregnancy makes you feel vulnerable at times, and it's an emotional vulnerability along with the physical, and really, the only one you want with you is your husband, not your mom or your friend or your sister.  Then there is childbirth, would you want him not to be there?  And there is the first few months of a baby's life -- two people there are so much better than one, and that is a good bonding time for the dad.  I realize that with him away it feels like time is ticking on the biological clock, but believe me, you are young enough that one more year won't make any difference.  Maybe you can start other prep, like a sure place to live, creating a nursery (sneaking up on those costs a little at a time can be a good way to do it), solidifying your job so you can get good maternity leave when the time comes, planning your wedding, all of that, and it will help you feel closer to this goal without having to do all of this rushed stuff about having a baby and being alone with it to boot.  Just some thoughts, not meant to be sounding judgmental.  Pregnancy is a big deal and bringing a child into the world and raising it is a big deal, and I wouldn't want to do any part of that without my partner near to hand.

[mslkpage]

How do you plan on inserting it within an hour? Is he going to masturbate during the visit with his attorney? And how do you plan to provide him with a sterile cup? When I worked as a correctional officer, inmates did not have access to these cups unless we were drug testing them. And if that was the case, they sure didn't get to keep them. Attorneys can only provide their clients with certain items, such as legal papers. If his attorney is passing the cup to him, then it's contraband. (BTW, mail delivered from the attorney isn't allowed. All correspondence must go through the US postal service. And why would he pass prison food...also contraband..to you?)Both of them can get in trouble if that happens. Just wait until he gets out. It makes so much more sense.

[oceans3]

if your fiance is in jail because he was protecting you from a sex offender, then WHY is the sex offender not the one in jail and your fiance with you? if this is the kind of environment you are exposed to, you certainly dont want to go bringing up a baby exposing him/her to (sex offenders around, daddy has been in jail...).
you have stars in your eyes. we are here to tell you this situation doesnt "sit right" i KNOW 100% these are NOT the things you want to hear. what you want to hear is how can you get his sperm inside of you? we are trying to help you. its just not what you want to hear.

[mejoje]

In my opinion you should wait until he is out before gettng pregnant. I know right now you think with your head right now and say that you will be O.K. by yourself, but I asure you in a few months you will be kicking yourself because your head and mind will not be your own anymore and you will be VERY emotional and lonely!! Start planning.... buy clothes and bedding and all of the little cutsie things and start up a baby hopechest. Pick out where you may want to buy the crib and bigger things for the baby and buy a gift card for yourself and put money on it every week or so, you can even do this for diapers and formula, then before you know it you will have enough for anything you want to buy, but that to I would wait for your bf so he can be involved in the decisions. Start perparing your body.. start excersicing if you don't already , start prenatals, get a check up with your pcp and ob/gyn to make sure your body is in good shape to have the baby. I know that a year is a long time but if you perpare now then when you do finally get pg it will be sssoo much easier and you will have someone there with you throughthe whole experience. Good luck.

[nikita2477]

I just wanted to say those are great ideas!!

[terrilg]

I am not going to repeat what everyone eles has said.  I do agree but with that said....  It would be unlikely that the sperm would survive hun.  During a sperm analysis a man can masterbate and ejaculate at home but the sperm has to be keep in a warm place and in the lab in 20 minutes or the sperm count can not be done. I know that this does not really answer your question but is a medical fact that it probably just could not happen.