I think that you should be upfront with your husband and tell him that using a condom is a vital part of your sexual relationship. He so your husband and should do what you require. =)
There are so many more options than just the pill and condoms. If you're scared of the hormones in most types of birth control, like me, you can opt for a copper IUD. I guess you can best go through all options with your doctor. But definitely make sure you know when you are most likely to get pregnant. Knowing how it works, already helps a lot I guess.