UPDATE

[Ginger_Snap]

Thank you Advetoo for telling me to go to the ER yesterday. I wnet and after sitting in the waiting room for 2 hrs I finaly got seen. It took so long but when I saw the doctor I got a ultrasound and got to see my babies heartbeat. It was so cool and beating 127 beats a minute. The ER guy said there was a pretty good chance I was just having unexplained blleding and not losing the baby. I am still bleeding and having twingy cramps and I am still kind of worid. I havent told anyone about my pregnancy except my man but I don't know if I should I worry about telling anyone in case I do lose it. So my question is has anybody ever had this happen and not lost your baby? I don't want to lose my baby but I don't want to tell my mom about it if I will probably lose it anywyas. Pleaes help.

[JoAnnaRF]

You can miscarry at any point in a pregnancy, but the further along you get, the better the chances of the baby surviving. I think that docs just tend to "allow" miscarriages to proceed without putting up much of a fight when they are early on in the pregnancy. I know when I was pregnant, I had several "scares" throughout and my DH took me to the hospital the first time thinking they would take me to the labor and delivery floor and "fix" everything. Instead, because I was in my first trimester, I was taken to the ER where I waited hours to be seen and was told if it is going to happen there was nothing they could do to stop it. I found out I was pregnant with a HPT after my first child was born, but a few days later started bleeding and I knew that that was that. I didn't even bother to go to the doctor. A month later I was pregnant again with my first son. I think women have miscarriages more often than they even realize. They are late but wait to test and then AF arrives a week later and she just assumes she wasn't when in fact it just didn't take. It happens. But you seeing that heartbeat is a terrific sign! And I know you don't want to tell you mom but she will find out anyways, and I'm sure she'd want to be there for you reasssurung you right now. You need her and she probably needs to be there for you, that's how mom's are. So sweet that you are worrying about her instead of yourself. But it really is okay to be selfish right now. You need support and a hand to hold.
Keep us posted and we are all crossing our fingers and toes that this strong baby of yours keeps getting stronger!
--J

[Ginger_Snap]

Thank you. I started bleeding red right away didn't have any brown blood so maybe that means I won't lose the baby. I will try not to worry but it is awful hard not to. When do you know for sure you aren't going to miscarry? Is is true that you can't msicarry past the 3rd month?

[lmroswell]

I bled with both of my pregnancies.  Early on in the first trimester.  I was worried throughout both pregnancies, but they turned out just fine.  I did have a mc, with our first, and was almost 12 weeks, and that started out with spotting brown blood.  So, it happens.  I don't know why.  But, if you have seen the heart beat, keep your fingers crossed, and try not to worry too much.

[blondie72]

Great news that you saw a heartbeat.  Did they say anything about the bleeding???  I do hope it all works out.  Maybe you could tell your mom but also mention the bleeding.  I hope all is well but if there is a chance you may lose the baby you may want your mom to talk to and help you thru it.  Hearing or seeing a hearbeat though sounds like a good sign.  Good luck to you with everything.  I do hope it is all ok for you.  Let us know how things continue.

[Ginger_Snap]

Thank you. The doctor said there wasn't a reason he could finnd for the bleeding. He said I may miscarry but the heartbeat was a good sign. I'm nervous and worried about it but at least I have my boyfirend for support. I don't want to tell my mom until I know for sure. I know I should but she will be upset and I don't want to upset her for no reason. Thank you again. This is very nerve racking not noing. It is good this is here to ask questions.