I just started having sex a month ago, and the past few times I have had the same problem. Until reading that other women are having the same issue I was so embarassed! Like the woman above me said, it is almost as if I have urinated in bed. I have been trying to find a solution but people who do not understand the severity of it do not see a problem. One thing idea I read about was to take an antihistamine, but I have not yet tried this so I don't know if it will help.
I totally understand this question. my partner and i have the same problem. i am 40, he is 41. neither of us have a problem with arousal. and i know threw personal experience that i am not "loose" but when i get aroused i get too wet and he has a hard time keeping his erection. it puts quite a damper on our sex life since he can only keep his erection in missionary position because he has control. and he has said it isnt until i get overly wet that he has a hard time keeping his erection. to put it bluntly, i have soaked the sheets before almost like i urinated on the bed.....that doesnt seem normal to me and i have never had this problem with any other partner. i wish there was an answer.
What kind of secretion? Is it clear or is there a color/odor to it?
If it's clear, I wouldn't worry - you're probably just really wet. I don't know what to tell you about your partner going soft when that happens, it should help him if anything.