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i'm pregnent, please help!!!
i'm a 21 year old, and just found out today that i'm pregnent via pragnency kit.i've not been feeling quite well for this pass one week. i've had bile, and stomac discomfort, and i have no appitite in consuming food. i haven't old anyone about it yet, and i don't plan to. i've missed my menstrual for a month now. as i'm in malaysia, i need help from you, without consulting a doctor. is there anything that i can do to stop all this from happening? or is there any medicine for me to consume to flush out my mensis?? please help.....
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sorry, i forgot to mention that i found a list of resourses for you to possibly go to or call.
www.charitymalaysia.org/woman.htm
you guys really do have lots of contacts and help out there. just takes some looking.
www.charitymalaysia.org/woman.htm
you guys really do have lots of contacts and help out there. just takes some looking.
so glad you were able to post back. i know things are really terrible for you right now and you sound as if you are alone (not a good spot to be in) however with time, im sure things will be better. everything happens for a reason and you may not know that reason now but soon enough you will figure it all out. i do think you should somehow, somewat let your mom in on whats going on. ya never know how moms react to things. you may think the family will disown you but when faced with the situation, they ususally dont end up doing that. your mom may even suspect something is different/going on w, you so she may end up drawing her own conclusions. moms are good for sensing things. im sorry your guy is taking the road to run (happens here in the u.s.too) but just as you are going through this not knowing what to do, im sure this is his way of dealing w. it. he probably needs time to think. his comment about going w. the ex was probably his way of saying im not going to take responsibility but who knows, he may come around and feel differently. from what i understand in malaysis, YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this. you are not the only one to get pregnant w.out being married. 40% of girls your age, educated, middle class, get pregnant and end up going to womans shelters because they dont know what to do. you do have places to go that can help you just need to find one. im just curious, does your culture frown more upon abortion or unwed pregnancies? i think you should try to seek out some help from the church the other poster suggested or a womans shelter (they may even have some names/resources for you).then say something to your mom (alone). maybe you could have this baby privatly somehow. just take things day by day and send us your thoughts. we'll continue to try and help.
Hi Sue,
Glad to see you back! I know this is very hard for you, and can understand your fear. If the issue is the cost of seeing a doctor and getting proper medical attention, then you have to find a way to get around this. I don't know about chemical abortions, but I think it's unanimous that you can't just go and get one over the counter from a pharmacist. Correct me anyone if I'm wrong here?
Isn't there some way of getting the money? A loan maybe? Or a women's shelter/organization which can help you? You must put your health before anything else at this time, so focus on getting to a doctor. Or a government hospital?
I'm sorry to hear how the father is reacting. To everyone else here, just a bit of background: in societies like this (including my own), the fault is always on the girl. The fact that it takes 2 to get the job done so to speak is often ignored, and the man's family is not 'put to shame'.
But Sue, it's your health hon, so please take care of youself now so that in the future, you still have it if/when you want to have other children.
Wishing you the best,
Blah?
Glad to see you back! I know this is very hard for you, and can understand your fear. If the issue is the cost of seeing a doctor and getting proper medical attention, then you have to find a way to get around this. I don't know about chemical abortions, but I think it's unanimous that you can't just go and get one over the counter from a pharmacist. Correct me anyone if I'm wrong here?
Isn't there some way of getting the money? A loan maybe? Or a women's shelter/organization which can help you? You must put your health before anything else at this time, so focus on getting to a doctor. Or a government hospital?
I'm sorry to hear how the father is reacting. To everyone else here, just a bit of background: in societies like this (including my own), the fault is always on the girl. The fact that it takes 2 to get the job done so to speak is often ignored, and the man's family is not 'put to shame'.
But Sue, it's your health hon, so please take care of youself now so that in the future, you still have it if/when you want to have other children.
Wishing you the best,
Blah?
Sue,
You cannot just take someting to get rid of this pregnancy now. You said that you have missed your period for a month now? That means that you are probably 8 weeks pregnant. Read this paragraph abput what your little baby is like at this age:
8 weeks - The unborn child is about half an inch long. The heart has been beating for about 2 weeks now. The little baby has his own blood type now. It is different than yours, most likely. The tiny person is protected by the amnionic sac, filled with fluid. Inside, the child swims and moves gracefully. The arms and legs have lengthened, and fingers can be seen. The toes will develop in the next few days. Brain waves can be measured.
I know people in Malaysia that can help you. I know of churches there that will be glad to offer help. Can you just tell me what part of Malaysia that you are from. I will post some contact information here.
We all want to help you. We feel like our hands are tied though because you are so far away. If you were closer we could help more. You have to help us help you. Don't do anything yet that can hurt yourself.
You cannot just take someting to get rid of this pregnancy now. You said that you have missed your period for a month now? That means that you are probably 8 weeks pregnant. Read this paragraph abput what your little baby is like at this age:
8 weeks - The unborn child is about half an inch long. The heart has been beating for about 2 weeks now. The little baby has his own blood type now. It is different than yours, most likely. The tiny person is protected by the amnionic sac, filled with fluid. Inside, the child swims and moves gracefully. The arms and legs have lengthened, and fingers can be seen. The toes will develop in the next few days. Brain waves can be measured.
I know people in Malaysia that can help you. I know of churches there that will be glad to offer help. Can you just tell me what part of Malaysia that you are from. I will post some contact information here.
We all want to help you. We feel like our hands are tied though because you are so far away. If you were closer we could help more. You have to help us help you. Don't do anything yet that can hurt yourself.
Sue,
We all want to help you but it is so hard since you live in another country. We are so accustomed to how things work here in the U.S. and it is a breeze for us to find a local facility that offers help and medical attention with complete privacy. I feel humbled and thankful to have the ease of an accepting and free society.
My main concern is that you don't take something that could harm you. I understand that your family may feel disgrace but maybe you could talk to your mother. She may be able to help you and keep this matter just between the two of you. No matter what life is like in your country or mine, a mother's love for her daughter knows no bounds. She may surprise you and I'm certain she wouldn't want you to take something off the pharmacy shelf. She will do what has to be done to keep you safe and protected. You need someone, and I hope you will give her a try. I would never allow any of my 3 daughters to suffer through something like this alone.
I understand that I have no idea what your relationship with your mother is like, I am simpy hoping that it is possible and can only speak from my heart as a mother of 3 daughters and 2 sons.
No matter what you decide, as you can see, so many people here really do care and want to help, even if all we can do is listen. So please keep in touch and take care of yourself.
We all want to help you but it is so hard since you live in another country. We are so accustomed to how things work here in the U.S. and it is a breeze for us to find a local facility that offers help and medical attention with complete privacy. I feel humbled and thankful to have the ease of an accepting and free society.
My main concern is that you don't take something that could harm you. I understand that your family may feel disgrace but maybe you could talk to your mother. She may be able to help you and keep this matter just between the two of you. No matter what life is like in your country or mine, a mother's love for her daughter knows no bounds. She may surprise you and I'm certain she wouldn't want you to take something off the pharmacy shelf. She will do what has to be done to keep you safe and protected. You need someone, and I hope you will give her a try. I would never allow any of my 3 daughters to suffer through something like this alone.
I understand that I have no idea what your relationship with your mother is like, I am simpy hoping that it is possible and can only speak from my heart as a mother of 3 daughters and 2 sons.
No matter what you decide, as you can see, so many people here really do care and want to help, even if all we can do is listen. So please keep in touch and take care of yourself.
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