You could try to put a hot washcloth on it do it gets a whitehead on it. Maybe if you can pop it after it forms a head, you'll be able to see the hair and pull it out. Some people say not to do that, but when I do, they never come back. Then put neosporin on it. If it's in a spot where it rubs on something, I sometimes use vaseline to form a barrier on it. Good luck, I hope it feels better soon!
I also would recommend a hot washcloth or a sitz bath for 10 minutes.usually they pop on their own.I had one and it was extremely painful.I hope this helps.
That happens to my hubby offten, and he cannot take pain either. What I do is put a hot (or as hot as you can take it) put it there for a couple of minutes and then pop it. He usually bites down on something.. then I put alcohol or neosporin antibiotic+pain. Good luck!