whats wrong with me?

[geminivv]

still no luck. we have been trying to conceive and no matter what no baby luck. i thought it was it this time, but my period came at first i thought i was due to the fact that i was spotting then it actually came. how is it that teenagers younger than i am can conceive there first tries without even wanting to. but someone who wants to have children can not?

[AutumnRaen]

Stop trying to make it happen. When yuu want something really bad, like a baby, it releases hormones that make you anxious, which doesnt let your body relax, to have a baby. I would recomment getting a period tracker, and about 5 days before your period have sex. Then rest a day or two then have sex again. This gives your body a chance to rejuvinate, and your lover to keep his count healthy. Just relax when your making love, try missionary, dont think bout anything but how good it feels. After the act just lay there for 15 mins. Just relax, and let things flow. It should work. Im a teen mom. Got pregnant when I was 15, on accident. I had a period tracker, and I accidently made the mistake to have sex while I was fertile. But thats how it usually happens, people that want to get pregnant dont, cuz there so wrapped up in the emotional stress they dont even realize there giving off a natiral birth control, vrs, a girls that dont want to get pregnant, they dont think bout having a baby, no natural stress, and wham, happens. Just relax !! (: and walah baby.

[WilliamsMom]

I got pregnant with my first sone at 18 and I had gone off of birth control for one month and we weren't trying but we were not NOT trying. My second pregnancy was in october and I was 21 and again I had just gone off birth control that month and we were definitely not trying. Then I miscarried, and I thought it was better for me, but then we decided that it was sad even if we weren't ready for another baby because we are young, but it was sad. I just recently got pregnant again after having one period, deep down I wanted to get pregnant but never said anything and we never started birth control again just because I didn't want to, hopefully this one does not end in micarriage but it does show that if you are not trying then it happens. My friend who is 30 got married and MD's said that she would have a hard time getting pregnant because she has some thyroid problem and she and her DH bought a house and were stressing about the house and getting ready or were only married for about 6 months and got pregnant, so just keep your mind off of things and keep yourself healthy.

[Adevotee]

I have to say that "usually" when a couple stops ttc and stops thinking about it, yes it does "usually" happen.

BUT

for me that won't work, I don't ovulate without taking medication. The medication I take is clomid and it is pretty expensive where I live, so for me to just "stop thinking about it" or to quit ttc, WON"T WORK!! lol

[ateague]

I just wanted to add that I don't think gemini was coming down on teenage mothers or saying they are bad parents (and neither was I for that matter) but rather it's so ironic that when you're younger and not trying to have a baby, you can pregnant just looking at someone.  But when you wait until you think you're mature/have enough money/stable/whatever enough to have a baby and start trying, it's 20x as hard.  You would think it would be easy when you start trying since it was so hard to stay protected when you were younger, but it's really not that easy.  Babies are blessings and I completely agree with you that they are given to you when it is your time.  I don't think anyone meant to make you feel like if you're young, you don't deserve a baby.  I know lots of teenage mothers who are great moms, (and I know alot of them that are bad mothers, but I know lots of adult mothers the same way, so that's besides the point).  Just wanted to make sure you didn't feel offended, because that's not why we're here.  We're here to support everyone.  :)

[cheetohead]

Just to clear that up-my OB-GYN advised me that any woman who is pregnant or attempting to conceive should take folic acid,but you need to ask your doctor.
I don't think it helps conception but it is important in preventing such things as spina bifida and so on.

[greenpixie]

How long have you been TTC?  It takes on average 6 months to 1 year, and that's for the most fertile of couples.  DH & I just got our BFP after 8 LONG months of TTC.  Beleive me, I was really starting to think it wouldn't happen for us.  If you are not BBT/CM charting then that's a good place to start.  Charting will confirm that you are indeed Oing, make sure you are getting the timing right, and show whether your LP is long enough to support pregnancy.  I charted the whole time and it was really helpful.

[jgirl34]

I believe in just sitting back and letting nature take it's course. My cousin went through IVF treatments and had her daughter then they tried again and no luck. They said they were happy with their daughter and that was that. Wehn they least expected it they were pregnant. If you're not stressing that's going to help. I am also one of those people you are refering to that got pregnant as a teen. There's a very good reason that my daughter was brought into my life when she was. I was headed down a very bad path in life who knows where i would be right now, dead, raped, in jail, but she is what made me open my eyes count my blessings and turn my life around. Please don't say bad things about these teens having children, I've seen alot of them better parent children than adults! I know ho frustrating this must be and can't imagine what you're feeling. I just believe a child is brought to you when it's your time. There's a reason for everything, and when it's that persons time to have a child you will be blessed. But please don't direct your anger that you have towards teens who can conceive right away. I'm not trying to be mean at all and I'm trying to be sensitive to what you're saying but coming from a mother who had her daughter early thaty is kind of hurtful! You are in my thoughts and prayers that this baby will be brought to you! Again I can't imagine how you're feeling and wish you the best of luck! God Bless you! And much baby dust to you********

[mandymoo1983]

no it dosent give you a higher chance of conceiving it only does good when youve conceived any body trying for a baby should be taking pre natels of some discription.

[Jess1202]

I know you are suppose to take folic acid bc it helps the baby but does it give you a higher chance of conciving? I was just wondering bc I have never heard that in any of my FCS classes.

[cheetohead]

I know what you are feeling. My husband and I tried for what seemed like forever to get pregnant. I finally stopped taking tests because I would get so depressed when they were negative.
When we finally stopped trying and were considering other options is when I actually got pregnant.

There are a few things that can help you to know that helped me out. If you are significantly overweight or underweight it can decrease your likelihood of pregnancy.
Also,if you stress about it every month that can hurt your chances too.
I know how stupid it sounds for someone to tell you not to think about it,but I got pregnant about the minute I quit thinking about it.
My doctor had me take folic acid also,maybe your doctor could advise you about that.
He also told me that if noticed a milky discharge that was the time to be gettin it on. Apparently that can be a sign of ovulation when you have that mucousy stuff to help the little sperm out.
I'm not a doctor or anything,this is just what I remember from my ordeal trying to get pregnant. I hope it helps you and good luck!

[ateague]

I am so sorry you are having trouble and I hear what you're saying.  It's nothing I haven't already thought about, why is it that the people who are trying so hard and would make great mothers are the ones who have the most difficult time getting pregnant.  

Funny story:  My DH has a co-worker who is 21 and has a gf who is 16 (I know, it should be illegal but the parents don't object to it so everyone's ok).  Back in January, she found out she was pregnant, which is not uncommon here in a small town.  The co-worker was excited and going on about how they're going to find out the sex of the baby and all at the next u/s, and my DH had to explain they probably won't know the sex of the baby until a least 16 weeks which there's no way she was especially if she just found out she's pregnant.  Long story short, turns out she was 6 months pregnant (with a boy) at that time and had her baby just last week.  Cute baby, but my GOD, 6 months of not having a period and she didn't have the slightest notion that something's not right?!  You want to know what brought her in?  She kept feeling a twitch/spasm in her abdomen that was getting more and more frequent.....ha!  Here's the kicker, the co-worker said they used a condom every time, so apparantly he has super sperm and they penetrated right through the condom.  Now how fair is that?  I wish life was a little more reasonable, but if everyone got pregnant when they wanted to, then we might not call it a miracle anymore, it would just be a routine part of life.  I will keep you in my thoughts and don't give up.  We're all here for you.

Anna