HELP

[ejduffberger]

I am a gay woman and I slept with another woman yesterday, we both performed oral sex on each other and then she told me tonight that she had herpes. I don't know what kind, I'm going to the health center at my school tomorrow, but I am completely freaking out. What are the chances that she gave it to me? She had no apparent sores or lesions anywhere I could see or feel, but I'm completely terrified. Please help.

Thank you,

E


This discussion is related to Chances of contracting herpes Question.

[Daniel_K]

I put in your situation (female vaginal-to-vaginal sex with an HSV2 positive partner) into STD Risk Calculator (www.stdriskcalculator.com) to see what the risk is. The risk is approximately 1/1000 although there is not much in the way of reliable research for girl-on-girl contact.

[gracefromHHP]

there's actually no reason to go and be seen - nothing they will do for you. it's incredibly low risk that you contracted anything from oral sex, either genitally or orally , and without any obvious symptoms, nothing for them to treat. it's also far too early to test for anything.

do you know if this partner has hsv1 or hsv2? is it oral or genital?  

grace

[petal130]

Oral sex is low risk for herpes transmission, especially a one time occurrence. In the absence of obvious symptoms (cold sore on mouth or painful lesions on genitals) within 2-20 days, no reason to even test.

That being said, have you ever been tested to know your own herpes status? About 60% of adults have oral herpes, and 1 in 4 women have genital herpes. Most never have recognizable symptoms to know. You could request an IgG type specific blood test now, and that would tell you your current status (if positive, it would be an existing infection, not new)