I have tried so hard to raise my 2 children to be respectful, considerate, loving, and caring people.My 7 year old daughter is exactly that. She enjoys life and is a very happy person. Then I have a 8 year old son. From one moment to the next, I do not know what he will do. Temper tantrums, complete disrespect, yelling, arguing, throwing objects occur on a daily basis. It is a very sad and difficult time when these occur. This is a daily occurence-usually average 3 temper tantrums per day. You ask him to do something that he does not want to do or just completely disrespects others and what they are doing-ie: teachers, friends, parents, sister. He completely defies most authority figures with an angry, hostile attitude when asked to stop whatever behavior is disturbing those around him. He is very intelligent and is skipped 2nd grade and doing very well in 3rd grade academically. At home we will ask him to do something and then a warning is given. Time outs, reward charts and logical consequences are used if not done (ideas came from the many books I have read). I used to spank him but that didn't help so I stopped. I have taken him to 2 counselors and 1 psychiatrist and he behaves and says all the "correct" answers for why he acts like he does and what he will do to change it. Another point-we adopted him at birth and expose to meth during the 1st 2 weeks is possible. I have considered military boarding school for him-but I don't know if that would be a solution. I told him that my father went to military school and my son was open to going. Doctor-your ideas please!