I’ve been mostly unemployed for the last seven years. I’ve applied for hundreds of jobs and gotten rejected for a number of random reasons (too young, too old, overqualified, not qualified enough etc etc).
I’ve even been let go from some temporary jobs for no reason at all ( I was not given any reason), and I’ve quit some jobs because I wasn’t paid. I’ve tried to get jobs by asking people for favours. I’ve tried to borrow money and start a business too. Nothing has worked out.
- I don’t have any friends.
- I haven’t been on a date in ten years.
- I have no savings
- I’ve had to live in my parents home for the last seven years, and I’m 35 now.
- I haven’t had anyone to celebrate anything with or even to talk to in years.
- I can’t seem to fit in where I live and don’t seem to be able to change my situation.
- I seem to be losing my physical health, since I’m trying so hard, and not getting anything in return.
- I have no one to talk to.
- I’ve tried dating apps, meeting people at networking events, reaching out to neighbours, and even random strangers at places like the gym, but unfortunately haven’t made any friends.
- I’m trying to follow suggestions of people on how to solve my problem, yet I’m still stuck
I’m not asking for a solution to my career or social problem. I am asking, how can I get a positive attitude back.
Over these seven years I have read several self help books on positive thinking etc, as well as Buddhists teaching, the Bible and more. I’ve made a large effort to be mindful of my thoughts and make sure I control them, and follow the suggestions in these books. I’ve also tried praying.
The problem is, seven years have gone by, and I’m broke and alone. I have no idea what to do. All this positive thinking seems like nonsense, if things don’t actually change. I’ve even seeked psychologists, but they say nothing is wrong with me, and anyone in my situation would have crumbled by now.
What can I do to convince myself that something good is on its way? How can I convince myself that my life will get better?