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Kinder issues as well
I know this post is old, but still useful to a first time mom like myself.
Hi, my name is Johanna. I just read your post, and I must say my daughter, who is 5, seems to be mirroring your child's behavior back in 2005. She was born Aug. 1st, so she just turned 5 before she went into Kinder. She had some slight behavior issues in preK but nothing the teacher and her aide could not handle. I rarely got a complaint. After she started Kinder I get a complaint almost everyday. She won't sit in her seat, she won't do her work, she won't follow directions, she acts as if she doesn't hear the teacher. However, she is doing well academically. She has apparently been listening. She just does not want to do the work. She even fusses sometimes at home when she is asked to do homework. The school counselor says she believes it is just because she is young, and says she will be ready in her own time. Her preK teacher says she thinks it is an adjustment going from a half day class to an all day class with 1 teacher and 20 students. I am just getting so tired of the complaints that I am turning a deaf ear. I just figured I will work with her slowly and home school her a lot more. She obviously needs more individualized attention that she may not be getting with 1 teacher trying to divide her time between 20 others. I think this is causing her to act out, but also since her father left 6 months ago she has been asking for him. He used to take her and pick her up from preK. He hasn't called or tried to see her in that time and I think this is also contributing to the behavior. She is very loving. Won't hit another child for her life, but likes to wrestle for some reason. I was very glad to read the posts. I somewhat believe that active or 'bad' behavior now may be beneficial later because from what I have read once they get older they seem to mellow out. Hopefully. If there are anymore suggestions I am listening.
This discussion is related to Our son having problems listening in Kindergarten.
Hi, my name is Johanna. I just read your post, and I must say my daughter, who is 5, seems to be mirroring your child's behavior back in 2005. She was born Aug. 1st, so she just turned 5 before she went into Kinder. She had some slight behavior issues in preK but nothing the teacher and her aide could not handle. I rarely got a complaint. After she started Kinder I get a complaint almost everyday. She won't sit in her seat, she won't do her work, she won't follow directions, she acts as if she doesn't hear the teacher. However, she is doing well academically. She has apparently been listening. She just does not want to do the work. She even fusses sometimes at home when she is asked to do homework. The school counselor says she believes it is just because she is young, and says she will be ready in her own time. Her preK teacher says she thinks it is an adjustment going from a half day class to an all day class with 1 teacher and 20 students. I am just getting so tired of the complaints that I am turning a deaf ear. I just figured I will work with her slowly and home school her a lot more. She obviously needs more individualized attention that she may not be getting with 1 teacher trying to divide her time between 20 others. I think this is causing her to act out, but also since her father left 6 months ago she has been asking for him. He used to take her and pick her up from preK. He hasn't called or tried to see her in that time and I think this is also contributing to the behavior. She is very loving. Won't hit another child for her life, but likes to wrestle for some reason. I was very glad to read the posts. I somewhat believe that active or 'bad' behavior now may be beneficial later because from what I have read once they get older they seem to mellow out. Hopefully. If there are anymore suggestions I am listening.
This discussion is related to Our son having problems listening in Kindergarten.
Hi there. You've tacked your post onto an older post that often will get overlooked for anyone to respond to. You will get more responses if you post a new question with your child's situation in it for people to try to help.
Anyway, I so understand how you feel when you think others expect your son to be a certain way due to your profession! I was in that boat as well -- but have since learned many things! Life is humbling, isn't it? My own son had a difficult time in preschool and the start of school due to sensory issues. School was very exciting and overwhelming to him at the same time. We worked on coping skills, things he could do out of school to keep him calm when in school (nervous system related involving things like exercise, physical activity), things he could do in school (non noticeable things he could quietly do to make himself feel better as well as classroom simple modifications to help him do better), helped with peers, etc. Now at 10, he's a champ in the 5th grade doing terrific!! The root of his issues were sensory related.
I'm more than happy to share some things that worked for my son! We've come out on the other side and have a success story to tell.
I'll help in any way I can. Oh, and absolutely . . . kids that struggle in school are GREAT kids. Needing help isn't a bad thing---- not giving it is. So, perhaps just a few simple adjustments to start would help him and you can go from there. Let me know what you need specific help with, okay?
good luck
Anyway, I so understand how you feel when you think others expect your son to be a certain way due to your profession! I was in that boat as well -- but have since learned many things! Life is humbling, isn't it? My own son had a difficult time in preschool and the start of school due to sensory issues. School was very exciting and overwhelming to him at the same time. We worked on coping skills, things he could do out of school to keep him calm when in school (nervous system related involving things like exercise, physical activity), things he could do in school (non noticeable things he could quietly do to make himself feel better as well as classroom simple modifications to help him do better), helped with peers, etc. Now at 10, he's a champ in the 5th grade doing terrific!! The root of his issues were sensory related.
I'm more than happy to share some things that worked for my son! We've come out on the other side and have a success story to tell.
I'll help in any way I can. Oh, and absolutely . . . kids that struggle in school are GREAT kids. Needing help isn't a bad thing---- not giving it is. So, perhaps just a few simple adjustments to start would help him and you can go from there. Let me know what you need specific help with, okay?
good luck
I know this post is super-old and your Kindergartner is probably in 3rd grade by now, the difficulties of K but a distant memory. However, searching for help for my own little "challenging" and "young" K-er, I found your post. Another similarity is that I, too, am a nurse. Specifically a pediatric nurse, so of course everyone is looking at me like "why are YOU having problems"? I'm curious - what DID finally help, or was it just time? He's been there for a month now, and nothing we say or do seems to help. He gets easily overwhelmed, especially by the end of the day, and Fridays are usually a disaster. He is very bright, but his outbursts and stubbornness are overwhelming us all. The teacher is very nice, and she says she believes he is a "great kid", but needs a lot of help. Any and all suggestions are welcome. Thank you!
I am the school nurse and my son just started Kg this year. He went to HeadStart last year, and we had a rough start, but in the end it was much better. My son has only been in school one week, and his teacher has told me he has had a bad day every day - similar to the other stories, he won't listen..... I just cried yesterday when I got the note AGAIN. I just feel like I've failed him somehow. and now I don't know what to do. how do I help him? He JUST turned 5 on August 15th and I just hope this is age related and the fact that he is a boy. but I am so discouraged with school. I tried to talk to his teacher, but she doesn't really offer suggestions on what to do to help the situation. I just feel so lost :(
I feel much better after reading the posts. When I picked up my 5-year old daughter from Pre-K this afternoon, her teacher told me that she had been "sneaky" and "stealing and hoarding" little toys and craft items. Compared to the other children, she's very bright and advanced academically, but she has problems following the rules. At home, she's generally well-behaved, especially when we are working on something together, especially crafts, reading, or board games.
I have noticed that if she is not the center of attention, she strives to be the center. I believe the fact that my husband is deployed again is a main contributer--at home, she has my undivided attention, she does not share my attention with daddy, so when she's at school she struggles with not being center stage. I have been trying to find constructive ways to help her cope with her struggle, but I'm coming up short. If any one has ideas to share, I would be grateful.
I have noticed that if she is not the center of attention, she strives to be the center. I believe the fact that my husband is deployed again is a main contributer--at home, she has my undivided attention, she does not share my attention with daddy, so when she's at school she struggles with not being center stage. I have been trying to find constructive ways to help her cope with her struggle, but I'm coming up short. If any one has ideas to share, I would be grateful.
If you do decide to home school, I'd recommend getting in touch with any local homeschooling groups, not only to share resources and experiences, but some members may hve opted out of schooling for the same reasons as yourself.
The missing dad will definitely not be helping matters. She may well need that extra attention, if you are willing and able to give it.
Wrestling isn't a bad thing. I can remember getting into lots of trouble at school for this, but we could not see the harm. We called it 'playfighting'. Maybe you could 'playfight' with her?
The missing dad will definitely not be helping matters. She may well need that extra attention, if you are willing and able to give it.
Wrestling isn't a bad thing. I can remember getting into lots of trouble at school for this, but we could not see the harm. We called it 'playfighting'. Maybe you could 'playfight' with her?
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