Thank you very much for responding. My plan is to show this to him and hopefully this will convince him! We made it through the affair but I don't know if we can make it through this as it completely inhibits his ability to function as a dad or husband. I've never seen anything like it.
His test is more than conclusive. He did not contract HIV. You both can rely on the tests as being 100% accurate.
And, before your mind starts getting away with you....NO, there is nothing (illnesses, medications, etc) that would have caused a "delayed" a positive result. Also...as the two experienced HIV docs on the expert forum have said time and again....the idea that people have the virus but don't test pos for a LONG time (or ever) is completely an urban myth and untrue. If his test was negative, then that means he does not have HIV, plain and simple.
Chronic severe anxiety can cause a plethora of very real physical symptoms...and if left unchecked, can make a person very unwell. I strongly suggest that you continue to support him as you have, and insist that he continue with his psychotherapy. He needs to be able to move past this fear and be able to accept that he is negative.
read the health pages link at the top right hand corner of this page.
if your husband is having health and/or anxiety problems...he should seek the help of a physician. his test prove that he does not have hiv.
Even with those symptoms? I admit now that he has shared his symptoms with me I started doing my own research which makes me slightly nervous. This damn internet!!!! I convinced him to have unprotected sex with me recently (3 times) to show how confident I was in his test results and what the specialists said. He did not finish any of the times but certainly there was precum.
Argh! Can I ask how you can be so sure and anyone else willing to chime in would be helpful.
your husband's test ARE conclusively negative...proving he did not contract hiv.
anxiety is more than likely causing all his "symptoms"...it's not hiv.
I'm no expert, but I understand what he is going thru. I had sex with a woman on December 11th without my wife's knowledge and I too am now concerned if I contracted something. I tested what my doctor's call "false positive" on the ELISA rapid test, but tested negative on the Western Blot test. Which according to my doctors make me negative and need to be tested again in 2 months.
But I did push the issue and had them do the RNA test, which I hope to have results in the next few days. I'm scared and find myself feeling every little think in my body, like a slightly sore throat and thinking its a symptom...driving myself crazy.
The best thing I can suggest is that you provide him love and support while he goes thru this. He really needs you right now. I'm sure (as I am) he is afraid of passing it to you if in fact he has it. I feel the same fear. My wife is supporting me and we've committed to get thru this no matter what the outcome. We've been married 18+ years.
I'm a little confused about the time table as well...My doctor has told me an RNA test can detect just after 2 weeks of exposure...which is why I requested the test. They said if it comes back negative then I do not have HIV. But to be certain I'll be testing (and so will my wife) out to the 6 month mark.
Hope my thoughts help....I do wish you and him the very best.