Could it be he simply needs his parents around more , if he has been in day care since he was 6 weeks old,perhaps you could arrange your hours so he was with you ,it cant be much fun for him to be in the principals office all day, have you a relative nearby he could stay with if you have to work a lot ,and then he also has to go to Sunday church without you?This is a cry for help to you, hes asking for more of your time...is it not possible to change your busy schedule and accomodate your son..