That's really a tough one.
These days I don't think I have answers to very many questions. Most of the answers I do seem to have are far less clear or certain than I ever would have found acceptable in he past. With few exceptions, I no longer feel good about seeing things as true or false, right or wrong, etc.
One good exception is the answer that I can't use or drink, at all, no matter what. Another, might be that my Recovery depends on me being honest, open and willing.
Below is a copy of a good story on this topic. I first heard this story on tape in September of 2005, while I was still in rehab. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since I saw that what asked, so I'm glad I could find it on line.
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Once upon a time, there was a farmer in a small country whose horse ran away. His neighbors, when they heard, came to his farm and said "Oh it is terrible that your horse ran away!" The farmer replied, "I do not know if it is good or bad, I just know that my horse ran away."
Later, the farmer's horse returned and brought 2 wild horses. His neighbors, when they heard, came to his farm and said "I guess you were right, it was a good thing that your horse ran away!"
The farmer replied, "I do not know if it is good or bad, I just know that I have 2 horses to tame."
Later, the farmer's son was bucked off one of the wild horses and broke his leg. His neighbors, when they heard, came to his farm and said "I guess you were right, it was not a good thing that your horse ran away! Your son's leg would not be broken if the horse had stayed home."
The farmer replied, "I do not know if it is good or bad, I just know that my son has a broken leg."
Soon the farmer's country was involved in a border war with a neighboring country and all young men were called up to fight in the war. The farmer's neighbors said "I guess you were right, it was a good thing that your horse ran away! Your son's leg would not be broken if the horse had stayed home and he would be off fighting in the war"
The farmer replied, "I do not know if it is good or bad, I just know that my son does not have to fight in the war."
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OOOPS sorry about the two "F's" in your name. Not intended.