boyfriend sleeps with 9 year old daughter

Espi66

Hello: I find it very disturbing that my 39 year old boyfriend sleeps with 9 year old daughter. I find it discusting that he sleeps in his boxer's and the 9 year old very spoiled daughter sleeps with him. At one time we were on vacation in Mexico with his family he kicked me out of the bedroom we were sleepin in at the sister's house to sleep with her because she cried and made her scene about her wanting to sleep with papi. I walked into the room to get my stuff and when I turned on the light they were both holding eachother real close it looked awful he had no shirt and I was discusted. He tells me I am jeleous and selfish, I am not I just think it's not healty or normal. I have 2 daughters and they spent time with my ex-husband their father and never in this world did he sleep with them and if I was ever told by my daughter's or him that he slept in the same bed, I would not ever allow them to spend the night. Please advise me am I at wrong? I have asked several different people for their opinion they all agree with me when I discussed this with him he of course got extremely irrate and said he spoke to his co-worker ( a man) and he told him he thought I was wrong and it perfectly normal and okay for him to sleep with the daughter. I am sure his co-worker wasnt told all the other stuff that I see.

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bigz2011

u are right sometimes we can go overboard. the sleeping its not so much as the problem but the behaviour whilst their not sleeping like rubbing of legs, she rubbing his legs back whats that all about. even if he isn't doing anything their are boundaries and it his his duty as an adult to enforce them

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allmymarbles

Different cultures have different attitudes towards children - some being much more demonstrative and nurturing. My daughter is married to a Hungarian. He lets their three-year old daughter sleep with them. May daughter was surprised at first, but he says it is a completely normal arrangement in his country. I have come across the same thinking in other nationals. For myself I always kept the baby's crib in my room. The only time I moved them out to their own room was when they had a sibling to share with. And when one of the kiddies (I had four) had a nightmare and came into my room, I tucked it in bed with us. Boy or girl, it didn't matter.

In the case of your boyfriend's daughter it is understandable that she is ultra-dependent (and probably jealous of you).

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Urafruitloop

My father and I have always had a close relationship I am 22 now and I still sleep in my parents bed occasionally even nap with my dad and it has NEVER even been borderline sexual. You guys need help. You act as if all men want everyone equally, even their own daughters? Give me a break.

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