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[rooftrash]

Hello peeps. i miss you guys .i hope you all are ok. i'm so sick.i have been covering up my depression with alcohol.i havent been taken care of myself.i am paying for it.i cant take it anymore.i need someone.since my son died i have went to HELL!Will someone  please im me ?I need someone to talk to..***@****

[Yoda99]

Bruce, check your email.  I just wrote to you.  I've been away on vacation and haven't kept up on all that's happening.  Dear, I hope you know I'm here for you.  Write to me or IM me.
Much love,
Yoda (Linda)

[tzt2lady]

My prayers include us here and a extra special prayers for Bruce, that we are able to digest our grief in a life giving way and continue to walk our paths the best we can.
tzt

[lonote]

Thankyou for the update Kim. Its much appreciated.            Cathy

[marcatj]

thank you for letting us know... does he know by any chance how many people are concerned, and are rootin' for him?

thanks LL,
mj

[LIZZIE LOU]

i just talked to him for about an hour.  he is doing...ok...just ok.  

[lonote]

Since Bruce posted that, has anyone spoken with him through e-mail or instant messaging? I only see the one thread/post what ever its called since his request for some support? If anyone corresponds with him on the side will you let the rest of us know if he's okay? I'd appreciate it.
BRUCE! If your still near your computer can you let us know if your okay??       Cathy

[TimH2]

It doesn't matter at all which forum. He has so many friends and you have known him a lot longer than I have. I am thankful he will have you all to help him through this.

God Bless,
Tim

[LIZZIE LOU]

hey sweetie...sorry we have been missing each other today.  i had just responded to your offline message when i saw your post.  turn your messenger on bruce...you know you always forget to do that.

looks like it is time for one of our late night chats.  i am here for you bruce...you are not alone.  let's talk about bryan and remember all the good times.  he was soooo fortunate to have you as his dad...you loved him so much.

NO MORE ALCOHOL...stop it now bruce.  let's talk sweetie...

love and hugs sent your way,
kim

[FLaddict]

If you need anything or someone to talk to you have my email and my IM address... I will see if you are on IM right now..

My heart breaks everytime I see you post and you are drinking... I know you are trying to numb to pain of losing your son.. I know that pain is very deep and very real..

You will be in my thoughts.. We love you Bruce

[TimH2]

Thanks so much and I am praying for him. He is such a nice man and told me about his son a little while back.

God Bless,
Tim

[LadySundown]

I'm so glad someone posted about Bruce. It doesn't matter which forum. He's going through so much but he's very strong. If I get an answer I'll let you know. I know his story and it's still kind of fresh and I don't think I could do any better than him...
Thanks....Connie

[TimH2]

I am so happy you can get in touch with him. I am worried about him too!!!

[LadySundown]

You have me worried. I'm gonna shoot you an email right now. I just got online and read your post. Hang in there. You know your loved. I don't have yahoo up so watch your mail.
Love ya....Connie

[TimH2]

You are one of those men that are so respected and liked. Your son was blessed to have a Dad like you. We went through a horrible time when my little brother died. My father would not talk about it and my mother was so depressed. They started drinking and that lasted for a few years. It was the only thing to numb their pain. They never had a drink until after 5:00 and on the weekends it was after 12:00. It was such a tough time in our home. They lost my eldest brother too. It took my father years to look at a picture of James.

[wickedwanderer]

we are all here for you...talk to us hun

[shelby74]

Hi roof,

I am so sorry first of all but like the others said the alcohol will only make it worse.  Did anyone mention an anti-depressant?  I was suffering pretty bad depression and anxiety a couple years ago - they put me on zoloft first.  It did not work for me and then I went on Prozac and I am doing pretty well especially considering the cirscumstances.  This is not something you can do alone - major depression is an imbalance in chemicals in your brain - you can get help for this!  You have been through so much sweetie- why go through this alone if you don't have to?  I will be praying for you too!

luv,

shel

[hopeless]

I am so so sorry, You need anything please just ask...
I will talk to you, if this is all you need right now!

I cant even begin to know how you are feeling, losing a child has to be the hardest thing to ever go through in the world.

Let it out, we are here and want to help you try to get through this hard time you are having!

Lots of Love
Hope

[TimH2]

It is so good to see you. I am sorry you are going through this depression. I watched my parents go through your hell and my heart and prayers are with you. I wish there was something that I could do to take your pain away. The alcohol is just going to make you feel worse. I am here for you and type away. I don't have yahoo or anything like that. I could always give you my e-mail. I am praying for you brother.

God Bless,
Tim

[tzt2lady]

I am here too.  I am glad you are talking about letting go of alcohol cuz that stuff will lock you into your grief permanently..

Im not sure what your spiritual beliefs are but some believe that the spirits of our loved ones have difficulty on their path to the spirt world until they feel that those left behind have said it is "okay" to go.    It sounds like the difficulty of letting go of him is tearing you apart.   I know you have heard all the sayings, "its only temporary, he isin a better place, you will be together again, and all that.  But although those words are said in love and are comforting, it seems the pain finds us again.   Grief groups are very good.   Some don't do well with groups and prefer individual counseling.   The grief you are feeling must be talke about, processed, or it will be destructive.  It the nature of it.   I dont really know you and I hope I am not saying anything to upset you.   I can't say I have suffered your pain, I haven't    I watched my mother die slowly for 6 years after a stroke that left her paralyzed, unable to talk or wak or read and then she went downhill from there.   During that time i studied death, how different cultures deal with it, various beliefs.  At the end, a ltttle before mom died I just started abusing drugs to escape.     I just heard your pain in that post.   I don't have answers but am here to listen     tzt

[TimH2]

Talk to me. We missed you a lot and happy to see you here. I want to help you.

[marcatj]

ps - your IM address does not show on your post... :-(

[marcatj]

Oh Bruce... I have been posting, wondering where you'd gone...

Sweetheart... I did not know your son died.  My God... I am so sorry.  Love... have you considered any kind of grief/support group? Or counceling?  Trust me when I say this.. my parents never "dealt" with the death of my brother, and the grief they held in took them down...

I can't imagine, ever, how you feel.  But I do want to ask if you would consider some sort of help to get you through this.  Not that you'll ever forget, but to help you at least grieve, so it doesn't sit inside you and become toxic.  Buddy... your son wouldn't want that.  It's too big to try to .. heal by yourself.  without help.

Honey, have you tried that, or considered it?

Oh sweet pea... please post back and let me know. I am so, so sorry...

All my love,
mj

[lonote]

Well, I bet Your missed by alot of people too. I miss some of you guys too! Big time! Oh, I'm sorry
you are in a bad place right now. I'm here.