Roommate is addicted and I'm screwed this time !!!!!!!!!!!

[tee1972]

Well, the roomate has done it now, I have been wondering where here is as he has been gone since thursday, well, he got busted , h ewas driving a semi for work in Kansas and got pulled over for DUI the was taken to jail and they did whatthey do when you go to jail and they let him go after he paid a small bond. He got  2 hours down the rd and got busted again, I guess he was swerving all over the rd, Stoned on vicodin and soma, ( I think )  He decided he did not want to stop this time so when they got him he was charged with fleeing and alooting the police another DUI and driving on a suspended CDL. SO needless to say he is still in Jail and will go before the Magistrate tomorrow, I thinkhe will get time for this. He lost his licence , He lost his job.

Rent is due in 10 days , I'm screwed and have to pay all 900 now since he does not haveany money and might not even be here . Plus, the propane tank needs to be  filled and that is 692.00 . We are at 5% and then no heat .I'm so pissed that he drug me into his fu%#ed up world. I just wished he would stay on the sub and get clean but obviously he is in it worse then I thought . I feel bad but I think I'm going to have to kick him out thistime, I cant sit on pins and needles every month and wonder if he will havethe rent money, I feel like I;m a bad person for thinking of doing this . What do you guys think ???????????

[Stacy79]

Thanks.  I wish you were around to tell me that a few years ago; I would have totally stopped.  Come on.  Our problem isn't that we don't know we are hurting ourselves and everyone around us, and that we aren't thinking of ourselves or our loved ones.  The problem is that we didn't know HOW to stop, or that the withdrawals were just too physically painful.  The way I see it is, and this is only my opinion: Can a diabetic stop being diabetic?  Can a person with heart disease just decide to get healthy?  Drug addiction is a disease just like any other, only it is more damaging because it is not only physical, but mental and emotional as well.  It takes a lot of work to heal, and we are all here because we are looking for ways to do that.  I'm sorry your roomate sucks.  And I hope he can eventually overcome this horrible affliction, but I hope you understand that it's not as easy as just deciding to stop.

[tee1972]

ok, I have made up my mind, When he returns from Kansas I'm kickinghim out a and taking notmenows advice, have the locks changed, thanks for  all the advice guys , your all great, I will still comeback and read and maybe post from time to time, I wish everyone luck  and please remember
your addiction is  hurting everyone around you . PLease stop and think of your self and loved ones

[grievingwidow]

Hey, please forgive me, I cannot find your initial post.  What is it that you are addicted to?  Just wandering.

[Savas]

The one thing I can help you with is telling you how to avoid putting yourself in a bad situation with your roomate's possessions;

Store them somewhere in a safe place (ideally a rental unit...but that costs a bit and you sound like you have money problems).

Y'know, I can't remember. is this guy on the lease with you? Standard one year lease? Do you even need this advice or do you have it covered? :)

You need to focus on your options and a lot of that depends on if he gets jail time or not, and how long.

[NautyOne]

yeah, and people don't need to hear  " I told you so"  and then have a happy thanksgiving.........wha?????

[notmenow!]

WHAT DID I TELL YOU WHEN WE SPOKE LAST, WAS I RIGHT OR WRONG, STICK WITH THE FORUM THEY KNOW YOU MUCH BETTER THAN I DO, HAVE A GREAT THANKSGIVING.

NAOH

[construction]

Im kinda in the same situtition, I picked up my 4th dui in may, took alot of soma and lorcet and blacked out on freeway, thank God I didnt kill someone. I have just gave up on a 25-30 soma lorcet habbit a day and I see what damage this addiction has done to everyone around me. I feel horrible for the things I have done, Dove straight back into A/A today and got a sponsor, Beach is right I lost all sight of what was right and wrong. Well I picked up another 24 hr chip and feel good for the first time in a long time. Im sorry this has happened to you but some times things happen for a reason. God bless Clay TX  Stay Strong

[beachtowel]

Because you loose the ability to make rational decisions.........

Your brain is distorted so your thinking and even emotions are distorted everybody around you can see it except you...

He put you in a terrible spot and I guess no time is a good time for this but the timing really sucks with the holidays coming up.......
do you have any family support that could kick in and help you financially till you can find another room mate?

[tee1972]

Please answer this for me , how is that so many people can let an addiction ruin their lives, I smoked for 15 years my brother said, " you smoke my son will never step foot in your house. Guess what it will be 11 months in three days since i smoked. i did it for a loved one but most importanly i also did it for myself

[IBKleen]

I'm sorry hun. I know you didn't ask for this.

[tee1972]

Yeah i;'m sure I can find another roomate, but the bad thing is his stuff is here and god knows how long he will be locked up . . My house is on a lake so hopefully it wont be to hard to find a new roommate but , I'm sure it will be a couple fo months , There goes Christmas. I wished he were here so I could slap him !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[IBKleen]

You are not a bad person. You hooked up with an addict.

Can you possibly find another roommate? Sounds easy, doesn't it. I really don't know your whole situation.