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Please talk me out of my current thought process!
Hello all. I am now 7 days clean, doing great really (withdrawal was not my first, but it was by far the easiest!), yet I have a lot of pressure to get my house (which has literally turned into an almost hoard) in shape for the arrival of my mother. My brain keeps telling me if I just take a couple tonight to get the house cleaned, I can go right back to not taking any. Here is my problem... this HAS to get done, but I have been cleaning little by little all week (which I did even while withdrawaling!) but nowhere near enough to pass my mother's obsessive cleanness. It just seems there is so much and no way I will get it done! Please help me! I am going crazy back and forth in my mind!
Maybe a cleaning service? A one time thing just to get things cleaner? I think it would take the pressure off...is it MerryMaids or something like that?
Good luck with this...I KNOW how you feel!! LOL
Good luck with this...I KNOW how you feel!! LOL
Maybe I'm stating the obvious, but really - you're considering or even talking about giving up 7 hard fought clean days because your house is messy? Really? If being drug free means that little to you then you're in for a bumpy ride... would you mom rather a clean house or a clean daughter?
Get some trash bags and go from room to room and throw away the obvious trash. Be ruthless. No time to think about donating to goodwill or recycling. Fill your dishwasher if you have one of them while you are doing that. Put in loads of laundry. Keep moving. If there are things you don't want your mother to see, deal with those first. Get everything picked up, As you clean and you find something that goes in a particular room...put it in a box or even a pile. Make a box for every room. Put the stuff away. Once you have the clutter gone, you can clean. Just do your best. Your mother will be okay. Just do the best you can. I agree with ImDone....don't over think this.
Then three, then four, the forty, than a hundred, then a thousand, yes, you should.
This visit will be a memory before you know it - just get rid of the stuff that really stresses you out - and do the best you can. You're overthinking this, I promise you. :)
This visit will be a memory before you know it - just get rid of the stuff that really stresses you out - and do the best you can. You're overthinking this, I promise you. :)
dam guys after listen to yall i know im not alone its hard when u have to hide from your wife or kids and when the money rans short its hard to explain i knew it was time to quit when i ran a day short and went to the streets its not safe nor u dont want folks to hurt u or see u plus for a 5/325 perc he wanted 10buck im like **** is this more powerful then coke.... anyway thank u guys but i have to ge back to my post looking for help there i think its called detoxe and withdraws need to know what like im scared
That is actually my biggest fear!! I am afraid of what she would find if she were to clean! I have piles of stuff around. I know that taking pills will only create more of a problem for me... after all, they are the reason my house is in this condition in the first place! Look... a half an hour has passed and I have not used! I should make it an hour, then two, huh?
OH - and hey - if she is an obsessive neat freak, maybe she'll clean the place up for you! lol
See there you go! You gotta laugh about this - better to have a clean YOU than a clean house right? It's all about perspective :)
Feel proud of yourself and let this other stuff go. Definitely not worth stressing over!
Feel proud of yourself and let this other stuff go. Definitely not worth stressing over!
Great advice so far. Now make a list and set the timer. Give yourself x amount of time for baseboards or linen closets whatever it is. Then take a break and cross things off.
Seven days is awesome! If you are like most one or two won't be enough. The mental aspect will set you back tremendously! I believe in you and love your screen name.
Seven days is awesome! If you are like most one or two won't be enough. The mental aspect will set you back tremendously! I believe in you and love your screen name.
Thank you so much! No pills in the house at all! I never would have made it this far if I did! Here is the problem... I really let my house go in this past year of using. We are seriously talking almost hard, worse yet, my mom is not visiting me, she will be in my house babysitting my daughter (think snooping and finding gross stuff!) I am so ashamed of the life I have slipped into while using and want to correct it but the pressure to do everything while trying to work on all of these other issues is really getting to me! I have already said to myself that I will just focus on one thing at a time and try not to think of the whole bigger picture and maybe before I know it the house will be clean. It's really bad though... I'm not sure if anyone understands that when I stress just how bad it is. It's disgusting! Thank you so much for responding, it has kept me from using at this moment!
'great" order... (sheesh)
And YES (thanks IB) - I forgot the most important thing here - GET RID OF THOSE PILLS!!!
And YES (thanks IB) - I forgot the most important thing here - GET RID OF THOSE PILLS!!!
No - you don't have to have the house perfect for your Mom - you really don't. You sound like me early on - I could find a reason to use anytime I wanted - and you know better than this. It's been 7 days and after your Mom leaves, it will be even longer, right? And you don't want to regret this later after she's left. Not worth it.
Hang in there - you'll get through this. Mom's can be a little obsessive, I know and I remember it well (lol) - but focus more on the time you can spend with her and not how perfect the house looks. I promise you- your memories of these visits aren't going to be about what grade order your home was in during those visits, it will be about how much fun you had with your Mom.
Enjoy the visit! And relax! :)
Hang in there - you'll get through this. Mom's can be a little obsessive, I know and I remember it well (lol) - but focus more on the time you can spend with her and not how perfect the house looks. I promise you- your memories of these visits aren't going to be about what grade order your home was in during those visits, it will be about how much fun you had with your Mom.
Enjoy the visit! And relax! :)
First off, I know it is your mom and all but it is your house. It sounds like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself. I don't know the whole situation so I don't know if that comment sounded right. Second, you have pills in the house? If so that is very dangerous if you plan to stay clean. The temptation is too great at any stage in recovery. Last, there is no such thing as one or a few. It never works that way.
Get done what you can get done and get rid of those pills!!
Get done what you can get done and get rid of those pills!!
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