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Cocaine Help
My fiance is currently addicted to coke. He has denied use for over a year until he slipped up and I found a empty bag with residue in it. I confronted and he said that he was going to stop. He has relasped twice in a month and this last time he asked me to allow him to use BUT control it so he can't abuse. I said no. We have five children and he abandoned us to do this, he also has sold everything he owns to get it while I worked hard to provide for us. Anyone with some insight on this drug, I am clueless!
SEVERE CRAVINGS... depression, and his mind won't work right for quite sometime.
I know I have to get out and thankfully I have made plans little by little. The house, car, bills are all in my name (ONLY) I just have to figure out a way to make about 400 more a week to cover daycare. I already work 2 jobs cause of him and I can not work 3, my babies need me.
Your posts scare the S**T out of me, I knew the stuff was bad and I have NEVER tried it and never will. But this really helps me to understand what I am dealing with. Can you also clue me on one what "withdraw" symptoms he will be going through? Is it physical or more mental? Thank You again
Your posts scare the S**T out of me, I knew the stuff was bad and I have NEVER tried it and never will. But this really helps me to understand what I am dealing with. Can you also clue me on one what "withdraw" symptoms he will be going through? Is it physical or more mental? Thank You again
Great post beach, and I agree with you. Don't let love blind you into thinking that it's stronger than his addicition, nothing is. I remember doing cocaine in a park in houston. I was with my uncle, his junkie friend, my bf and his friend. the guy was fixing shots for us all and I remember wanting another one so bad. Someone in the car saw the cops somewhere in the park, and started talking about us leaving. But I wanted another shot! I whispered in my bf's ear that if he'd fix me another one, I'd pretend I had to go, so he could fix me another shot, after I'd just had one. I went into the outhouse, stood on the toilet, and looked out the window. I still remember looking out the window and thinking to myself, "Nothing else matters except this feeling right here, nothing I'm in heaven" Do you think you and your babies can compete with that? I'm sorry but you can't. I didn't care that the cops might be coming, I didn't care that I was shooting dope after junkies that had done it for years, I ONLY CARED ABOUT THAT FEELING of pure euphoria. NOTHING ELSE MATTERED. NOTHING........... You can take it day by day hope and pray and all that, but unless he wants to quit really bad, then it's only a matter of time before 1 of 3 things happens. 1. Jail, 2. Insanity. 3 Death. or.. you could cut your losses, and try to live life w/out him, day by day pick up the pieces of your family's broken home, and make the best of it. My husband died from a meth overdose, but i was separated from him for a year. It still sucked alot, but i think it would have sucked more if i was still with him.
How can I convince my sister? She swears she isn't using, but she has this group of new "Friends" - went thru 8,000.00 in 7 months, and has a dime size hole in her septum. Says it is over but I cannot believe it. She has lost about 40 lbs and looks like someone out of a concentration camp. She has her husband convinced all is OK, but I know better in my heart. How can I tell? Any suggestions on how to deal? Thanks so much.
All drugs have there own demons that you have to deal with......
Smoking pot besides the health risks to your lounges and making you so lazy you quit working is the gateway straight to hell...........
I know narcotic pain pills can do some serious damage...first starts innocently with legit pain until the body becomes dependent and then addiction starts to flurish............
but there are really three horrible addictions that always cause destruction to yourself and to anyone you come in contact with........
The first is Methamphetamine or "Ice" on the street will destroy you over a couple of years when Ice gets done with you and your family is gone you look in the mirror with your rotton teeth and look like
Skeletor where only He-Man can save you.......
Second is Cocaine with starts out innocent enough with a few lines no big deal until your doing an 8 ball day and every bank account you own and your family starts to run dry........but then when the lines don't cut it anymore you go to Crack and now were talking about a drug you would shoot your mother in the head for a quarter and everything you own is sold for pennies on the dollar......
Third is Heroin after those narcotic pain pills quit getting you high and your taking 30 or 40 pills a day trying to get high and just avoiding getting sick you learn about the syringe and how using it plus the intensity of the Heroin takes you to a place where angels live and even though there demonic by nature it really doesn't matter cause when you start you want to be with them all the time.....owning a home, a car or having a job becomes an after thought your happy sleeping in an abandoned car in the winter time in Michigan just to push in the plunger on that syringe.......
He asked you to "allow him to use BUT control it so he can't abuse".
You have five kids and to be honest I would not want to be where you are because I couldnt handle it.....but you have five children who's father is lost in the insanity of addiction so all they have is you..
He has to go into a six month rehab first for himself and then N/A and strong after care for his family if he is not ready for that then protect yourself and your children and kick his a s s to the curb.....
Smoking pot besides the health risks to your lounges and making you so lazy you quit working is the gateway straight to hell...........
I know narcotic pain pills can do some serious damage...first starts innocently with legit pain until the body becomes dependent and then addiction starts to flurish............
but there are really three horrible addictions that always cause destruction to yourself and to anyone you come in contact with........
The first is Methamphetamine or "Ice" on the street will destroy you over a couple of years when Ice gets done with you and your family is gone you look in the mirror with your rotton teeth and look like
Skeletor where only He-Man can save you.......
Second is Cocaine with starts out innocent enough with a few lines no big deal until your doing an 8 ball day and every bank account you own and your family starts to run dry........but then when the lines don't cut it anymore you go to Crack and now were talking about a drug you would shoot your mother in the head for a quarter and everything you own is sold for pennies on the dollar......
Third is Heroin after those narcotic pain pills quit getting you high and your taking 30 or 40 pills a day trying to get high and just avoiding getting sick you learn about the syringe and how using it plus the intensity of the Heroin takes you to a place where angels live and even though there demonic by nature it really doesn't matter cause when you start you want to be with them all the time.....owning a home, a car or having a job becomes an after thought your happy sleeping in an abandoned car in the winter time in Michigan just to push in the plunger on that syringe.......
He asked you to "allow him to use BUT control it so he can't abuse".
You have five kids and to be honest I would not want to be where you are because I couldnt handle it.....but you have five children who's father is lost in the insanity of addiction so all they have is you..
He has to go into a six month rehab first for himself and then N/A and strong after care for his family if he is not ready for that then protect yourself and your children and kick his a s s to the curb.....
You need to find a way out of this relationship b/c it will hurt your kids far more than you know now, and will eventually pull everything in you out. It is exhausting trying to help anaddict, especially if you do not use. If you don'y use, stay that way. Get away before something happens you can not control. For example DHS being called and your kids put thru unnecasary questioning and the possibility of losing them, due to the fact that they are in harms way. Any time one uses, there are things that happen that they think will never happen to them. If he is already in trouble, the problems will only get worse. If he continues to do these things to you and your kids, putting you and them in a bad environment, he doesn't care very much about you all. I know this is a bit harsh, but I wish I woulf have had someone to be honest with me. When you mes with drugs, you are not only mess with it yourself, you deal with everyone else he is involved with. Drugs do not make great friends, so be careful b/c other people he upsets, owes money,etc. can and will do whatever to get it, including hurting you or him, killing someone, burglary,etc. GET OUT before you and your kids, who definitely deserve better than what they are in now, are stuck by the lies and deception of the drug he will quickly trap you in. Find help. It is available!!! Good Luck!!! You and your kids will be in my prayers. Keep in mind when you decide what you are going to do, Your kids did not ask nor deserve to have to be raised in this ****. It is not fair to them.
YOU REALLY HAVE TO DO DO A WHOLE OF COCAINE TO ACT LIKE YOU ARE DRUNK. COCAINE IS AN UPPER. YOU SPEED UNLESS YOU ARE SHOOTING UP THEN YOU FEEL DOWN FOR A WHILE STUMBLE CAN'T TALK CANT HERE NOTHING BUT BEE'S AND TRAINS. (BEEN THERE DONE THAT TO) I ALWAYS CLEANED AND MOWED GRASS SPED IT IS AN UPPER
Thank you for your comments. The reason that he has only relasped twice in a month is becasue when I initially caught him, I started to keep track of his every move. He had to call when he was leaving work, when he got home, give me ALL his money, and no going out with friends. Both times he took money from his check, and when he came home I KNEW he was using. The first time it took him a week to tell me and this last time (11/7) he told me over the phone because he knew that when he got home he was busted. The selling of the stuff happened over the past year and when he would get paid and have no money to give me for bills I knew he was up to something. I accused him for the past 8 months and of course he denied, but I have been through this before with a family member and knew what to look for.
The problem with him is that I do not think he really wants to stop. I have gone back and forth on if I am strong enough to help him or if he is strong enough to help himself. You guys say that he has to do if for him and not for us; this is what I told him the other day when he relasped again. Some parts of me just want to walk away, but I am afraid that I will be reading the paper and hear about his death from an overdose.
I have given him the "look at what you stand to lose" bit, and as he said that it does not matter to him, his only concern is getting the drug and feeling the high. I also asked him the other night how much he was doing at on time, and he did not know. How much do you have to do to look and act like you are drunk? (Slurring his words, stubbling) Please any other insight would be helpful in trying to understand the addiction.
The problem with him is that I do not think he really wants to stop. I have gone back and forth on if I am strong enough to help him or if he is strong enough to help himself. You guys say that he has to do if for him and not for us; this is what I told him the other day when he relasped again. Some parts of me just want to walk away, but I am afraid that I will be reading the paper and hear about his death from an overdose.
I have given him the "look at what you stand to lose" bit, and as he said that it does not matter to him, his only concern is getting the drug and feeling the high. I also asked him the other night how much he was doing at on time, and he did not know. How much do you have to do to look and act like you are drunk? (Slurring his words, stubbling) Please any other insight would be helpful in trying to understand the addiction.
Help!! I am in same boat as scared....I am so sure my sister is addicted to coke...How can I tell for sure? She admits she used for several months, but says she is clean, and i just cannot believe her. Please help.
Hi my addiction is heroin & i relpsed yesterday after just 2 weeks. But by the sound's ov your fella it's not got hold ov him properly yet if he can use only twice in a month the selling everything is worring though. i'm sorry to say but that's behavour of a full addict.God if i could have back everything i'v sold over the last 13 years i'd be ste for life. you'v made the right step finding out as much about addiction is the best way to help or at least understand a addict which will be a help you both it will give you undersanding that your partner has a illness but it does'nt exeuse him from taking everything you have worked hard to get for you & your 5 kids. i have stole from my mum hated myself for it then done it again. him asking you to allow him to use so you can control it is abit ov a wash out well for me it is as at the mo that's what i ask my fella to do with my vallium then i just pester him & nagg even cause arguments just so he give's in and give's me them. One thing you should no about on addict is we are very very good lier's & will promise you the world just for that 1 last chance or that one last fix. There is always detox or rehab for him but with you & 5 kid's that's tough going it doe's work for some but everyone has to find there own recovery that's best for them. i'm guessing your partner isnt doing this to hurt you he probably doesn't even no just how much pain he's causeing you & your kid's they will see this aswell kid's are the best at noing when there is somat wrong my 10 year old hate's drugs full stop all coz ov the damage i'v done. it can never be taken back but i can make thing's better for him now. you have to think of your well been & your kids once your parner see's that you can do life without an addict that might give him the kick up the arss he need's if not at least you've learnt some valubale skill's. I do hope this isnt the start of an addiction for the hole family it's not just the addict that suffers be strong & tough love can be the best awy my family where to soft with me when i hit hell that's when i wanted out 13 years on & please keep posting on here & reading others experiances you will be amazed at what we have all been through it will give you strenth there are other people on here like you with loved one's addicted you can share you up's & down's with them aswell addiction is a illness but it can be cured with alot ov hard work & will power on bith side's most of it has to come from him good luck keep posting you'll get support it's a very ferndly sight & has helprd me massivly i'm rammling now lol. soz stay strong & happy for yourself & your kid's they will need natalie :)
i have been battling my cocaine use since age 13 (i am now 21) i have came from a VERY long line of cocaine/crack addicts. it took me 6 months in an impatient treatment to get sober i was clean but not sober. it is SO F***ING hard on the real. the 2nd hardest thing to come my way (my 14 years brothers death is the 1st) you have "DOPE" dreams the simplest thing such as a clump of sugar can trigger a urge that feels as if it will NEVER end. you have to want to quit for youself. not for any other reason you have to want and desire it. i was caught up in the money balls for 80$ making 200$ of one by the time i was BUSTED i was smoking it (crack) abd reuping with 4 1/2 ounces at a time. 4200$ a pop. i was living in the fast lane it was ALL ABOUT ME my needs and ME ME ME so it is THE worst of worst adictions in my eyes. you are fighting with the damn devil when cocaine is involved. i am sorry to haer about your situation 5 BABIES damn very sorry. i am not trying to stress you anymore than you are but you every right to be scared to death i still am. if you want to anything else about my feelings just let me know i TRUELY WISH you the VERY BEST.
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