getting the hots in rehab is very very common. it's feels so strong but it's usually just a "chemical" reaction. if we were out in the world, probably wouldn't look at the person twice. if it's any consolation, it's probably doomed to failure. sway
Sorry about the " them/they" reference. Its only for privacy sake. They is a she. Not sure how people would react in this forum. But at this point it doesnt matter. Thankyou for your help. lol Your not slow, I thought it might be confusing. Anyway, i am trying to move forward, and i will. Easier said than done, but time will heal I guess.
hi sorry you are having to go through this...i am confused you keep referring to an ex-partner but you keep saying them and they...sorry i am kinda slow..lol...i know every program i have been in says dont get involved in a relationship for a year...it takes a year to learn who you are after addiction...sometimes even longer...like IBK i have seen many ppl start a relationship in early recovery, but cant think of any that lasted...move on with your life...you deserve to be happy!!!
Yes, thanks, it does help. I dont wish either any ill will. I guess I am just confused. I still care about my ex, I was more than happy to go through it all with them and support them in any way I could. They pegged me as codependant and thus I figure they thought I was part of the problem. Trying not to take it personally. Thanks for your words. Appreciated.
Hi,
As hard as it is, don't take it personal. It i common. As addicts we are always looking for that quick fix, whether it is drugs or people. Anything that makes us feel good is fine. It is also a way for us to take the focus off of ourselves.
It is strongly recommended that addicts do not enter into a relationship for the first year of recovery in order to have the time to work on themselves. I have seen a lot of people over the years jump into a relationship. I do not know of any that worked out.
I don't know if that helps you but you need to go forward with your life now. It seems that past relationship was toxic.
I am sorry for your pain and hope you are able to put it behind you and go forward. Best to you.