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DutchessGolden WHERE ARE YOU??

I'm just remembering the "good ol' days" when everybody that used to be here, including you Dutchess, that helped me out so much, (while I was whacked).... this is just to say, THANK YOU.  The only person that has even come close to replacing "The Dutchess", is FLaddict in knowledge and forthrightedness.  I miss K-Todd and Catuff, Tim2h and Desert Girl.  There was always people like Lady Sundow, LoNote, Justlikeyou, TzLady, Beach, Roof, Construction, GGin35, Ilikevics, HubbyChoo, Oxybliss, Shelby74, GrievingWidow, Tink, Road2Recovery, Wheredidmyenergygo, chrispy, chrosty, cinnamonstix, Mom2Rachie, RCS lady, Alex29. TrayCee, Athena, LizzieLou, RBC3, misstake, awakan, addicted2pain, Oxybliss, liscamdave, Sportsmom, and last but not in the least is Emilyanne and Yoda.

I'm just in one of those very grateful feeling moods and if there was anybody I missed, (ah gee, I'm sure I did), please forgive me and even let me know that you are there.  You all have been such a force in my life.  My life has improved a hundred fold and you are all part of the reason that I am very sure is supernatural.  There is a God, and I'm not it.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Fish

PS, does somebody remember the 80 year old guy that was so wise and left with a goodbye?  I'll definitely miss him.
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Are you still up? It's now 3am in NH.
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did the guy go by the name mangee or something?
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I cannot believe that you mentioned me!  I am so honored but do not feel that I am deserving!

You are so sweet.

Love, Cindy
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Hi Em, I'm on pacific time remember?
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PS, thanks for mentioning me... I had a bad night so perhaps I'm a little lcynical this morning.
No offense intended to anyone....
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A lot of people are in the other room where we deal with addiction and actually have some light time.

I hope you are doing well.

Tim
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I heard from Duchess not so long ago, a week or so. She is doing well and still lurks once in awhile.  She was treated pretty harshly so can't blame her for not being around as much.

Mangee is still posting his hillarious jokes!!!    He named one thread "accident" and had me so worried that he had really been in a car wreck.  It was one of his jokes and was so funny.

Some of those you mentioned are almost exclusively on the community forum.  It is so cool there, I read and post and come away feeling good.    On this forum, half the time peopel are mean to one another or especially to newbies and it upsets me a bit.   I still come to offer what I know about recovery but when I need help myself I go to the Community Room exclusively.

Come see us there, you'll like it.

hugs to you
tzt
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"I love the other forum, because it keeps you and your huggy kissy poo crowd away from this forum". Mom2Rachie, does affection, true friendship and loving support bother you? I've seen you make comments before ( and ignored them) about certain people being affectionate to each other...it seems to bother you a great deal, for reasons only you know, but have you ever stopped to think that that affection, or in your words, huggy kissy poo crowd, has saved some of us from using on a certain day? That what some of us need more than ANYTHING is some loving, supportive affection? It's ok if you don't like that, but don't knock others for it. If you had ANY clue how much it helps some people, you either wouldn't comment so nastily, or you WOULD make nasty comments because you are filled with rage.
You also commented to Tim that if he doesn't like what you have to say to someone or in a post, to skip the post. Ummmmm, I think that you should take your own advice, and YOU SKIP OUR POSTS since they bother you so much. We are using the new forum as it was inteded to be used. If you don't like it, skip it.
Tim is not crazy, and I'll tell you why. You, mom2rachie, are so full of hatred and rage that you have the ability to bring out the worst in people. If Tim were crazy, his posts above would have been phrased much differently. And by pulling up the post about when Tim got drunk WAS mean spirited. It was mean and spiteful, and I can only speak for myself, but you are of no use to me here if you're the kind of "friend" who will throw someones bad moments back in their face.
One last thing, and whether you believe it or not, I am saying this in a concerned manner, not sarcastically: It is obvious by the way you post that you are filled with rage and jealousy. Hun, we can see it. It seeps out of every word you write. I hope that you can find a way to deal with that, and instead of pointing out what is WRONG with people, point out what is GOOD about them.
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Very well written.
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Did I do something wrong steph? Trying to defuse things?
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Hey now fishmeal how are you doing? Here is to hoping that all is well with you. I have been off and on and mostly off lately but have not forgotten any of you good people. I have been going to meetings and trying to stay busy been processing lots of things that have been stuffed inside my addicted brain..I got back on drugs in around 1989-90 so have that many years of feelings and thoughts to process it seems, been hiding out in the hills too long and am trying to learn to be social again and it has been tough..But enough about me I hope that everyone here is doing well. Hang in their fish and all you folks remember to be thankful for your health your relationships those you love your children and the things in life that bring you true happiness and joy and you will be well...Love ..a-wakan
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I am almost at a complete loss for words over this thread. I will merely state, that when I came to this forum, I learked for a bit, not sure if I should post. When I started my detox, I began to post and it was the hardest time of my life, and in that turmoil I found love, support, guidence, and most of all..MOST OF ALLL...ACCEPTANCE. Those people that gave it to me the MOST, were Tim, Shelby, Todd, Emilyann, Lonote, Fladdict, Tzt, Road2Recovery, Oxybliss, grievingwidow, hopeless, Marcatj and the rest of the kissie poo crowd. Let me tell you, that without these people, I would not have made it to day 59. I came here looking for help, stuck in a world of people that did not understand what I was going through. And help is exactly what I got. In the beginning, no matter what I needed to talk about, someone was there for me. It didn't matter what we were talking about, we all found comfort in talking to each other, and if that was a remedy for our addiction, then SO BE IT....I would have doen anything to help myself quit this demon, and meeting these people and talking to them everyday and hearing their stories, is what helped me. I couldn't wait to log on every day. So the topics drifted from addiction once and a while. I am sure, I can find many a post where others (people who have been here a while) have talked about topics other than addiction. A new forum was created, isn't that enough for you??? It was my understanding that this was to be the forum to do just that, talk about anything and everything we want. And the tone in the forum, is LOVE...SUPPORT..ACCEPTANCE....we dont care what the situation or topic. I can tell you, some of the posts are unbelieveable...we have such wonderful conversations there. We all try to bounce back and forth and help anyone we can. I dont think anyone should be singled out. These are good, loving people, which whom without, I may not be where I am today. I feel blessed to have found this forum and met these people. And to see that this is what was posted after fishmeal touched me heart with that beautiful post, I was so saddened. It is a shame, maybe there should be another forum made for those that want to be hurtful and bring others down, when all we are trying to do is rise.....SO SAD...........................................................

LISA
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Beautiful and we think the world of you.
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No I wasn't directing at anyone is specific... just trying to nip it in the bud....
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Hey Tim, Lisa, awakan, Em, Tz, Mom and Grieving widow, thanx for all.  Remember to get along because a) don't sweat the small stuff, b) It's all small stuff.  We are all like aliens here, searching for a way home and ALL of you helped me do that.
Blessings
Jim
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Thanks Fish and you in turn have helped a lot of us!!!

God Bless,
Tim
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What does that have to do with addiction? And who cares about all that nonsence anyways?
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DAMN you all are naive,hockeyfan,hockeyfanslady,dutchess,,,,,all the same. Remember when hockeyfanslady showed up for 1 day, said she saw dgs posts in archives and wanted to know about her,,then wah lah,,dutchess shows up,hockey dissapears .Her invites to meet her,,lol,,tzt  begged her to meet,,didnt happen did it? Treated harshley? No more then you treated ANYONE who dared question her. Maybe you can find her on a porn site with Taylor
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im here
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ah, you just take the good with the bad and throw out the bad.  I guess it's just like life. ~~~ You ever notice a mother with a son that can do no wrong in her eyes??... so much love there that she overlooks the bad and just sees the good.  Then for some supernatural reason most of the time it ~~~"TURNS OUT FOR THE GOOD"  That's the weirdest part.  How a mothers belief in her child, however bad he is, somehow turns him to good later?  Life is funny isn't it??  I hope we can all do some of that around here.  I did notice just today, Dutchess' profile picture... it's the first time I've ever seen it... WOW what a knock-out!  Sometimes things just look to good to be true, (heehee Dutchess, you are a doll!)  But you know, as I was clicking back on some of the posts from June and May, I did notice one fact.  That Dutchess was there for me in print and really brought my spirits up when I needed it most.... and that was way before I even knew what she looked like or what she did for a living.  I do remember defending her with teeth when things went awry and there were a couple of people dogging her for no reason?  I just couldn't understand that.  I don't understand why people have to worry about taking, "other peoples," inventories anyway.  

This comment is about trying to convince people that, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it.  It's working for me at this forum very nicely and truly the new people are the most important people here because if we give away what we have, we can keep it also.
Best to ALL, (and I really do mean all)
Fish

PS  Mangee if you're still out there I really miss you posts and wonder if there is another site that you frequent that I could go to???  Thanks TzLady for letting me know he's somewhere.
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Love ya, my dear fish!!
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back at cha! Em!
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OK I went ahead and uploaded a pic and profile of the family... I though, why the heck not.
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