Relapse Question please help me :(0c

[really_trying]

Hi.March 20th I quit cold turkey. Went 10 days. Relapsed so it has been almost 17 days. I take 40mg oxy and two percocets a day. Going to try again tomorrow. Two questions. What kind of withdrawal can I expect after a relapse of three weeks? Plus is there anyone out there that has had these addiction issues and no one knows. How do you deal with after care. I can't see going to support groups without anyone finding out. No one can know but I can see how important after care is to support you so you don't relapse. It has been such a struggle over the years. I always put the withdrawal down to the flu. This time my family said why do you always get this flu every year where u can't eat and sleep for a week and I should see a doctor. I just shrug it off. As it was only a month a go I went thu this I hope the withdrawal won't be as bad so I can actually hide it this time and not pretend I have the flu again after such a short period....important for me to know this if anyone does. Thanks for any advise

[motye51]

N/A, N/A, N/A, N/A, N/A, N/A, oh, and let me say it again N/A

[VICourageous]

Hi.I just came on for a sec, but If you would like to read a bit of info regarding this disease, hit my name and go into my Journal. You will see the "Nature of Addiction" and "Addiction and the Pleasure Pathway Beyond Willpower". This info is out here big time these days and much more info then I have put in so far..BUT it does not cure us it only gives us some more understanding..SO tell your secrets and let your self free to get Support. I wish you the best.

[really_trying]

Thanks everyone for the advise. I am listening

[penny1974]

I'm still new so this is just some of what I have read from others. And have felt myself. W/d is different for every one. Depends on how long and how much you use but still different.  I read that it can be worse the more we detox. Take vitamin's drink lots of water and stay busy. It really does help. I like natural calm for night rls.  Good luck! You can do this. It will be okay. I finally this last few months realized that talking to some one helps and having some sort of support is good. I'm still making steps myself and I hope you will make yours. Coming here is a good step :) keep going forward.  

[Bigdaddy1313]

It ***** but your body remembers really quickly. It probably is going to be almost as bad as you remember.  To me any type of WD *****. I'm a fairly strong guy who works out 7 days a week but I'm a wuss when it comes to detoxing. With that said I've went through WD and detoxing 5 times before I got real help. 15 months later and life is wonderful!

[kyle505]

We're all different, but I'd say about a week of difficult detox and then a couple more until you feel "normal". And then it will start again when you relapse. As you get older the detox get harder. You're messing with something that can kill you. You don't understand - who you are and what you do pales in comparison to your health. Your head is in control and has you convinced that no one can know...Silly and dangerous.
K

[rush2112]

to answer your question:

every withdrawal is different, but I would say that you can pretty much expect some more of what you went through...sorry but thats the harsh reality of it...three weeks is plenty of time to become addicted and or dependent on these drugs and you were only off for ten days so you hadn't even really begun to heal yet...

[Quietwoman40]

I agree with Kyle I kept my addiction a secret for 10 years and thought nobody knew about it and when I finally came out to everyone they were not surprised at all, my family and friends stood by my side and gave me the support I needed and I also got involved in N/A and therapy and it is doing wonders! Good luck!! :)

[Bigdaddy1313]

If you do the same thing over and over how can you expect different results? You may think you have this well kept secret but I would bet your family knows. IMO. Sorry to say its going to be tough to fix your problem when you can't admit you have one. Addiction is a horrible, terrible thing and it had the face of a demon. It is so so patient and it will be happy to wait you out. Addiction loves for us to keep the secret because II thrives in the dark. Unless you bring it to the light by telling those who you love your going to lose my friend. Don't let it win.

[really_trying]

Thanks everyone

[really_trying]

I understand and get the message. After care is needed for suceess. Any cooments as to what to expect after 3 week relapse

[lulu747]

Hi There really trying-
Sorry to hear about the relapse and the obvious pain you are in.  It is true- there are very few, if any, addicts that remain sober without some form of aftercare.  Being an addict is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not discriminatory and can affect any one.  The more we keep our addictions a secret, the sicker we become.  NA is a great free resource that will accept you with open arms and give you amazing support.  Addictions specialists and counsellors are also good options (this was the route I chose)  Why can you not tell anyone?  I know it is a totally overused saying but Honesty really is the best policy.  Look at it this way- if you don't tell anyone and don't get the support that you need (and deserve) then you will continue to relapse.  This can result in loss of job, family, friends, and eventually your life.  I know it sounds harsh but it is the truth.  Being an addict does not make you a bad person.  We do bad things when we are addicted, but addicts are some of the kindest, most generous and compassionate people that I know.  
No one can really tell you how bad your detox is going to be.  But aren't you tired of putting yourself through this?  I promise you will feel so much better about yourself if you come clean to someone, anyone and get some help.  You are worth it.  Your life is worth it.
Sending support...
Lu

[VICourageous]

DITTO what Kyle said. I would not be here without Support. It will save your Life!!!

[kyle505]

You're missing the point...You cannot keep your addiction a secret and expect to recover. You say want help, but you are doing nothing different, so why do you expect different results? It doesn't matter who you are or what you do, you need long-term, on-going support otherwise you'll continue to relapse.
That's just my opinion, and others may post differently, but I can tell you, based on years of failure, that you will relapse behind your secret. I've not met an addict who was strong enough to maintain recovery without support - and that means telling your secret. This is a great forum, but it can't take the place of face-to-face interaction.
K