Girlfriend took a lot of Aspirin -Possible Problems

[Sirspamalot]

Im very worried right now, i dont know how im even able to sit down right now and write this. About 2 months ago my girlfriend took a very large dose of aspirin all at once, about 20 pills, she told me on the phone she was doing it and eventually hung up on me as she said she had a ringing in her ear and couldnt hear me so she was going to sleep. I was away on a trip and rushed as quickly as i could to get to her side. I didnt call an ambulance for a few reasons. She had gotten into a fight with her dad who she doesnt get along with and has occasionally hit her because she doesnt take any of his ****. Well she couldnt take it that night and was upset to the point that she started taking the aspirin over an hour period. She experience light headedness and a ringing in the ears, she was coherent and responsive to my questions and her pupils were responsive to light. At that point i decided not to take her to the hospital because she wants to become a pharmacist, and has the long term goal of working for a major pharmaceutical company, She had just been accepted into a presitgeous college that she worked tirelessly to get into. I didnt make the call because i knew there would be an investigation and more importantly the school would be notified of what she had recently done. It worries me because i really do believe that she was just trying to numb the pain and aspirin was all she had at her disposal. But it obviously hints at an underlying issue, i just lose sleep now because she wasnt eating and lost ten pounds her first week in college, worse yet she feinted twice a week later. She told me the doctor said the blood vessels in her veins are not contracting enough to keep the blood flow in her upper body, on top of this her blood pressure is constantly about 45, she has never feinted before in her life. This is a very fit girl who ran cross country for 6 years of her life and did many other sports including baseball, soccer and basketball.

- John

[Sirspamalot]

well we went on a 'date' yesterday and went to the movies, then went Halloween shopping and then went to the mall. Anyway to keep it very short i had gotten her this journey ring back in august before she left for school and gave it to her last week. Not saying we would get married or anything but basically saying "hey i know it will be different since we wont be down the road from each other but just know im willing and want to do what is necessary to be with you" (im supposed to go to Rutgers soon though anyway after break). So we went on out and she wasnt wearing the ring, after the movie and shopping she slipped it on when i wasn't watching (was driving). Then we had a conversation a bit later while still driving and we were talking about pot and how its everywhere on campus and everyone does it including this kid steve she is hanging out with and her roommate etc etc. Basically she is doing pot after not having touched it since her soph year and always told me how she didnt want to or needed to do it while we were going out. Right now what is killin me not how much i want to be with the girl but that she is now doing drugs. Pot isnt a big deal i know this, could be a lot worse, but its such a 180 and so suddenly, also she told me that she did some research about her near OD on aspirin and now is sure that she ****** up her blood vessels in her legs from it but then told me that she is very grateful i didnt take her because that would have ruined her life a lot more.

[hillary5]

wow....reading your story gave me chills.  you sound like real down to earth nice guy.  Do you think she will be calling you after your 2wks apart? i really hope so .. has she ever talked about wanting to hurt hurself in anyway? the weight thing, is she bulemic?  or was it just the stress of movin and goin to college? i hope the best for you and hope she figures out what she wants ... good luck to you ... let us know what happens .. k?   .. peace!

[Sirspamalot]

well if your thinking i went and continue to go to her side purely based on the pills she took then no that is wrong. Even before that i was always there, she had a staff infection a couple months prior and i was there with soup and food and brought her food in bed. Ive thought about it though believe me, especially now that were not going out ive had to think and come to my own conclusions if i did all that because i felt bad for her, or if i really do love her. And to be honest every day that goes by im more and more sure i did it because i really do love her for who she is, not what she has done.

[road2recovery]

What a great guy you seem, run to her side with food and everything..
i would only agree she doesn't miss home...but it still worries me that she is going to school to be a pharmacist, and still took that amount of pills?? Sounds like she needs help...Don't get me wrong ,alot of us here don't even think about asprin, we are addicts...But it makes no difference , if you are going to take that many pills of anything to numb the pain..
I hope she gets help
R2R

[road2recovery]

that makes more sense now...but still why would she take so many asprin??  Don't you think that was not ok?? i can understand butting heads with parents..But her having ringing in her ears and all that doesn't seem ok..Do you think she was trying to hurt herself?
you seem like a great guy, and runs to her side...But is there more to that too?
just think about it?
R2R

[Sirspamalot]

well we just broke up about 2 weeks ago, shortly after her eating stint. she  thinks im trying to hard to care for her and that i wont give her her space in college. we kind of made an agreement that we would give it two weeks before i came up so she could get settled in, but after i found out she wasn't eating i rushed up there with a bunch of food and filled her fridge with snacks like yogurt, apple sauce, etc. i then planned to hang out with her the following week. i was going to make her dinner at my place, but then we broke up. she is now just partying and studying and to be honest i dont know what she is doing. she wont pick up the phone and call me because we had a big argument, not a bad one where i said i hated her or anything or called her names, just one where i gave her some bad reasons that i loved her because i was avoiding some issues and because i was desperate and i was reacting to a bad situation. we have talked many time about her dad, she loves him only because she says she feels he just has anger problems and his actions speak louder than his words. On my own observations i think he is a good guy deep down, they just always bicker and he always has to be right about everything, just like her.. so they but heads a lot and argue over a lot of stupid things,  and he treats his other kids better which also upsets her a lot. Now that she is gone at school and isn't working for him presently she kinda felt liberated/free from him and hasnt missed home at all.

[road2recovery]

It seems that you love this girl...She needs help...i have never heard of anyone taking that many asprin, it seems to me that she is crying out for help...how old is she??
You have to step in and see what is going on, why is she scared of her dad, is he abusing her???
this doesn't seem right??
stay with her, she needs you
R2R