How do i Know if my Boyfriend Has been shooting up using needles.

[KimberlyRose97]

I don't know what people think is true but i have people saying this and that, and then some others say a total different so I thought i'd ask the internet or something. My boyfriend use to be a user and now he has apparently stopped.
But the other day i couldn't help but notice about 8-10 little black dots all over his veins.
Is this from shooting up?
And if so, how long was it afterwards that he had the shoot for it to go black, and how long does it stay black till it disappears to a little scar.
Im not a drug user so i have absolutely No clue, Will somebody please help me out with the truth.

I need to know if this is a healthy relationship or not, its killing me.

[EvolverU]

I just realized that his tracks might be black if he's using 'tar' which is prevalent in CA, AZ, Texas & other states. (It's really hard on the veins & is often full of impurities). From what you say. I'd have to agree with the others that he's almost certainly using.

It's probably time for some real soul-searching about your relationship with an active addict who's in denial. We have a forum here called 'Living With An Addict' that might help you get through this & give you the benefit of other's experience who've been where you are. You have to put you first! The simple fact is that you can only help him if he wants to help himself. Wishing you peace & clarity!

[KimberlyRose97]

his answer to about a drug test, is No **** that.

[KimberlyRose97]

I know, its very sad. I hate needles and that, i hate seeing people do it. I just can't stand it! :/

He still keeps on saying he isn't using but all the signs are there,  :/

[Merri123]

Yeah it doesn't sound good. You can always get a drug test. One with instant results. He'll either take it, get angry and leave/fight or tell you the truth.

If he is, you will need to walk away girl. You can't go down that road. It is long and hard.

[msdelight]

He's using. My opinion. Sorry girl.

[KimberlyRose97]

Hey, Well i did ask him but he deny's that he is using. He has previously used, He was really bad with using before i met him, and Apparently he has been clean the whole time we have been together and its been 6 months now, and I have never noticed these marks until now.
And yes he does do as you said above.
He Goes out for hours on end, is secretive at times, i can just feel it.
He attends to also ignore me all day until 10 at night or something.
His sleeping pattern has been really unusual.
He came to stay at mine for 3 nights, and he was sick, vomiting, coughing, sweating, it was like as if he was withdrawing from a big boot.

[EvolverU]

Hi Kimberly & Welcome :)

The first thing that I'd be looking out for would be changes in his behavior.
For instance:

Is he secretive? Do you sense that he lies to you -- is evasive? Does he have sudden unexplained absences? Does he spend a long time locked in the bathroom or elsewhere? Have your/his finances changed? Does he nod out? Does he have new 'friends' & avoid certain old ones? Has he missed work more than usual? Does he make constant excuses where he didn't before? Has he lost interest in things he used to care about?

A combination of the above would tend to underscore that the relationship is not all it should be & that he's most likely using. The appearance (alone) of marks on his arms without other indicators doesn't necessarily mean he's using. Has he got a history with drugs? When you say that they're black, I'm a little confused as usually track marks are red or show bruising. Have you asked him directly about the marks?

You're in the right place & we're here for you!