So, I'm sure you have heard the story before. My husband and I have never been angels, and I'll admit that I occasionally take a pill or two for a little buzz. However, I would give it all up if I could get my husband to as well. He lost his job in February, and since then he spends most of his time drinking and taking xanax, vicodin, percocet, and colonapin. Excuse if I misspelled... It isn't every day, but I am sure if it was in front of him, or someone offered he would take it.
My concern is increasing because of the bad things that are happening when he "blacks out" In the last few months he fell from a cliff and lost a front tooth. It cost hundreds of dollars to get a replacement for job hunting. A few weeks ago he blacked out and lost that replacement. This weekend he blacked out and had money and pills (not that those matter to me) stolen. Tonight he lost a carton of cigarettes, sack of pot, and the remainder of his xanax he had just purchased. Even more upsetting is that he tried to drive to someone's house after realizing these things were likely stolen. I was able to overpower him and get the keys only because he was so messed up.
He won't admit that there is a problem. He has told me that he was this way when we got together, and if I don't like it anymore I should just leave. I don't want to leave. I keep thinking that if he gets a job he will straighten out again. But, I'm not sure he could even get one while he is in a state like this. What do I do? Financially I am paying for the mistakes he is making, accidents they may be, but he won't admit that if he had been sober they wouldn't have happened. I guess my question is, how can I stay with him, without enabling him?