I am about to just give up

[S*G*]

Well my husband  as decided that quitting is just to much for him and he just  told me he really doesnt want to quit yet then 100 dollars  is now missing and that was grocery money I am at my wits end and I dont know what to do. My brain says leave but my heart says to just keep trying and I am just so lost His work as now cut him down to 3 days a week  i just  to know  

[DannyFL]

Just to give you a perspective from the other side, my wife and I couldn't quit using while together. We actually had to split up, because 2 addicts going through the mental obsessions together is just a recipe for disaster. Believe me, we tried any and every way possible, it just didn't work. I'm not saying you cannot do this with him, but he needs to know that you will not sit by and watch him ruin his life any longer. And if you tell him you are leaving, you damn sure better follow through with your promise, or he will know he can get away with this again and again. But here I am, going through a divorce now, although both of us have over a year clean. You find out quite alot about yourself when you get clean, like what really makes you happy, like having a healthy relationship, rather than a relationship where one person controls the other with drugs. And we all know about those awful fights while dopesick, where things are said that you may or may not mean. You would be surprised at how much healthier you will become, and how much healthier the relationships in your life will become when you are clean and sober. (thats no mood or mind altering substances, including alcohol) Good luck, and remember, the MOST important person in your life should be YOU!

[tnbrowneyes]

i am sorry that his had happened. what are the odds you will be able to continue yor detox? or do you plan to? you can better help him clean. if you go back to using you will jus find ways to justify it.
please keep us posted

[Tim2H]

I agree with Fishmeal and would have him take a look at this site. I am sorry for your troubles and hope all works out for you. It is so hard to quit and you seem very supportive. I would "lay down the law" to him. My wife told me on no uncertain terms would she put up with my abuse. I have 5 children that I adore and don't want to lose them or my wife. She didn't give me any options.

Tim

[justlikeyou]

ive seen people try to do somethng or other with another person all my life, it never works. the only way anyone ever does anything is if they want to, never because someone else is doing it too. if you want to be off pills do it, for you.

if your going to use pills because your husband cant exhist without them.............what are you?

you are woth it,

you deserve to have money to buy groceries.


tough love

;)

[fishmeal]

What, if I may ask, is he probably buying with the $?  It's going to be time for him to take some drastic action, yes?

Maybe he will agree to get on this site and tell his story and maybe we will be able to help?