My Mom's Addicted to Soma

[gummybear998]

Hi im Amanda 12 years old my mom is addicted to soma and she has been for about 7 years. My grandpa died 7 years ago and thats one cause. She also hates life but loves us kids. She dosnt want to change yet but recently have tried for me to take care of the meds. By being in charge of it but has relapses. She is always asleep and when she is awake she stumbles and cant talk. She also shakes very bad and had these classes because i was in the car with her when she got a DUI from this problem. The classes should have help but didnt. Im amvery sad but can never ever get through to her about things to stop. Im mostly alone watching tv and being isolated from the world. I never get to go out and do things. She is getting a job but im scared she might lose it.  Im very sad  and wish the best for her.

[dominosarah]

Thank you narla~~~~

[narla]

Hi Amanda
Can you speak to a counsellor at your school,or someone at church.
You could also google al-anon this is like alcoholics anonymous or narcotics anonymous but it is for relatives of people with addictions.They can give you support while you are dealing with this.
You have taken on a huge role by trying to support your mother and I commend you for that,but you need to make sure you take care of yourself as well,do you have any brothers or sisters or even Aunties or Uncles that you could speak to.
Keep posting and talk to us and let us know how you are coping.
I will also send you a private message,Take Care and remember we will help you on here as much as we can,even if it's just to talk.
Denise

[dominosarah]

I hope you will come back and talk to us Amanda.

[feohmoon]

You sure sound like a very mature 12 year old and it breaks my heart that you are having to suffer through this addiction even though you have done nothing wrong.  Addicts hurt those closest to them, the ones they love the most - that is one of the most heart-wrenching sides of this sickness.  
I agree with the others, that you need a counselor to speak with, perhaps other family members but continue to speak with us on this forum too because you need an outlet for your feelings.
Your mother is lucky to have you and she can get better.  This situation adds some responsibility for you that someone your age should not have to take on and I will pray for you and your family.  Try to keep your head up Amanda -  

[Dav125]

Take's a very strong and grown up girl to take on the responsibilities you have Amanda..You are doing the right thing reaching out for help and finding this site. It is one of the best places you could have found.

I'm so sorry you have to spend your time watching and worrying about your mom, instead of being out with your friends like most girls your age. I have two daughters just a little older. 13 and 14..

Like Sara asked above,,is your dad around or anybody else that can help you with this? It has to be very hard and sad for you to do this on your own. I can tell your very worried about your mom and I can see you have studied and learned about her problem. You get an A+ from me for taking on such a big responsibility..

Like Sara said though, you come here and talk about this anytime you need to..We will help you thru this as best we can ...You try not to be too sad Amanda,,You hang in there and keep an eye on your mom,,,,ok?   David

[dominosarah]

Hi Amanda.....We are so happy you found us.  We will try and help you all we can.  Is your dad around at all?  Any other grandparents?  Have you talked to your school counselor or a teacher you really like?  You have alot of responsibilities right now and you need to talk to someone about what is going on at your house.   I know this makes you sad sweetheart and it breaks my heart to have to read this is going on.  Your mom is sick right now but she can get better.  Keep talking to us okay??   hugs to you Amanda, sara

[Iwant2Bclean]

It is hard to sit back and watch somebody you love throw their life away. You can beg and plead with her til you are blue in the face but the truth is she will not do anything until she says it is time. Is she is forced to go off them chances of relapse are great. I am saying this from experience. I made my mom watch me about kill myself with the drugs and she couldn't say a thing to me. When she did I would go off on her. That is part of addiction. I am sure she loves you very much but addiction has taken over and that is all she can think about. Try telling her Dr that gives them to her if she has a script for them. Hopefully she will get a wake up call and see all that she is losing. Until then all I can say is pray that God will help her. I am here if you need to talk. I know it has to be hard on you being so young
Krissy