Everybody has a right to gripe. With what we are going through and have gone through gives us the right to gripe. It does not however, give us the right to attack someone simply because we don't agree. We all have an opinion on how to deal with certain phases of our problems. This does not mean, that if you don't agree, that you should attempt to discredit anyone. The ide behind this forum is to help each other to learn how to deal with our problems. No one is infallable, we all make mistakes and should not be taken to task if we don't like what we see. Voice your opinions on problems that have to do with how to cope. Look for the advice that suits your needs and ignore the ones that tend to distract you. This one says this, the other one answers back, somebody else agrees with one or the other and another jumps in and pretty soon we have a war on our hands that tends to make people leave this forum because that is not what they are here for. If i want to enjoy a fight I will watch a hockey game or a boxing match.