Is it denial?

[madeulook]

My husbands says he isn't using I don't believe him I have a huge gut  feeling he is... what im wondering is he in denial of his problem or does he relly think its not a problem. At some degree he must know its not right because he lies about using. How can I atleast get him 2 tell me the truth I know I can't get him help unless he wants it and I have come 2 terms with that it took me a while but I got it... I use 2 accuse him all the time of using and I have stopped completely even though sometimes I know he is high as a kite....  

[GA Guy]

He's in denial that he has a problem. With that comes the lying, etc. Regardless, it's just semantics if he's using. Trying to figure out why will just drive you crazy.

[corey411]

It is common to really think that you are not going to use again and do it so yes that is denial....it is also common to not want to deal with the question as to whether you are going to use again and just say your not and that is denial...The important thing here is that it seems you are not in denial and that is huge. Good thoughts and many prayers to you. Corey

[madeulook]

Ok sorry 4 all the questions if its denial y does he lie and say no im not using if it was denial wouldn't he addmitt to using but say he doesn't have a problem?? Im just so confused I left him 4 a while and he was doing good so I thought and now that I came back everything that I thought I left behind is coming back...  I feel like im competeing with another woman here sometimes I wish it was...

[GA Guy]

He's in denial, but his addictive brain is really telling him that he doesn't have a problem. You can't scare him into sobriety. Even the threat of leaving will have no bearing on what he does. You need to get to an Al-Anon meeting and learn to deal with his addiction, or leave. Leaving is your best choice. You can always return if he cleans up for an extended amount of time. And yes, you can mix pretty much anything.

[madeulook]

He told me about it 10 months ago that he was using drugs I didn't know what till recently he said he was mixing heroin cocaine and crack can u mix all those things? So now he says he isn't anymore but I know he is and its more than just a gut feeling I have come 2 learn how 2 tell when he is high or not. And I have told him if u r addicted I won't leave u ill b there 4 u till ur clean.. Im just starting 2 think he doesn't want help and doesn't plan on stopping anytime soon... I have ran out of ideas...

[skrillie]

what is he using?
Its probably denial. I think so, because that sounds like what i was going through until i told my wife about my using. I didnt think i had a problem until i ran out of money and couldnt pay my bills on time. I think if you are really sure that he is using, confront him about it and let him know that you will support him with it and help him get some help for it.