Idk what to do

[Kelseago]

Well I'm feeling pretty good actually.  Still a bit sleepy but not craving.  I feel angry all the time too.  Right I'm worried about a friend though.  Her fiancé is dumping her because she's not getting sober fast enough.  She's has multiple car wrecks resulting in serious back injuries.  She's been on pain meds for years and is no seeing a drug therapist and going to NA.  It was my understanding that she was trying to taper but now i don't think she's fully admitting she needs to.  It doesn't help that her pain management dct wants to put her on smthing stronger now so she "won't have to take as much to feel good".  He knows she's an addict and this is what he does?  I just don't get it.  Her fiancé told her rehab or leave.  She wants somewhere to go crash at.  I live hours away and she wants to come here which I wld have no prob with if she were trying to help herself.  I'm now 8 days clean and idk if I can handle it.  I love her like a sister and hurt for her.  Idk if my husband cld handle it either.  Some of the last few times I've seen her she'd been so incoherent, slurring, passing out.  I just don't know what to do.  Should I allow her to come stay?

[Kelseago]

I am very certain she's going to a therapist and NA.  She's still a bit in denial though.  She thinks that just because she's not constantly "f'd", even though she's constantly on smthing.  I just talked to her and she said that she's prob abt to move into her mom's n give over her medication to her mother.  I hope she does this

[vicki595]

Kels--Sometimes our partners are the least supportive;they just don't "get it".  She can seek out support on her own. There are so many avenues...make those suggestions to her. Are you sure she's seeing a therapist and going to NA?

Be thankful this is not you!!  If you were further along in your recovery,you could be of great help to her. But,you still have work of your own to do...

[dominosarah]

I wouldnt let her come stay with you.  It would be very toxic for you.  She has to deal with her addiction issues and her relationship.  You can only save yourself~~sara

[Kelseago]

I just feel so bad for her.  She my Children's Godmother.  I want her to get help, get the support she needs.  Her fiancé has never been my gave person.  Not the most supportive, emotionally abusive.  I just wish she had a good support system where she's at.  I just researched her new meds n it's a morphine based one.  I'm not a dct but that seems crazy.  I know she's trying and is taking less. Not running out of her scripts before time.  Her fiancé assumes it Shldnt tk this long n it just pisses me off.  I wish I cld help her

[vicki595]

NO!!    Not trying to be cruel but you have to take of YOU and your family. This is going to be her "rock bottom"...you can support her from afar but that's it. She needs to get some help beginning with that doctor!

I know it's tough but you have your own battles,Sweetie...