WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP BEING AGGRAVATED ALL OF THE TIME?

[Lsufan3103]

I AM 9 DAYS INTO SOBRIETY AND I AM ALWAYS AGGRAVATED WITH EVERYONE AROUND ME, ESPECIALLY MY STEP-CHILDREN. IT'S NOT THEIR FAULT THAT I AM IN THE SITUATION THAT I AM IN AND I REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE THAT WAY TOWARD THEM....IT ISN'T THEIR FAULT AND THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE TO SUFFER. WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP THIS? IF I COULD GET CONTROL OF THAT, I WOULD FEEL MUCH GREATER. SOMEONE HELP.

[lucyred68]

kava kava at health food store, lots of excercise.  go jogging if you can, or get a boxing bag!!   my son used to take out his aggressions on one.  i was glad he had one to use instead of the walls!!! LOL

Lucy

[GoingToMakeIt]

Go to a health supplement store and see what they suggest. I don't need to calm down as much so I don't know which ones work best for that. Exercise always helps. It gets the toxins out, gets the aggressions out and gets the endorphin production going which helps mood and well being. Chamomile tea and or Valerian root tea calm.

[cathy5841]

gtmi can you tell him  which are good for calming and moods?  i didnt know which do what lol

[Lsufan3103]

IS THERE ANYTHING THAT I CAN TAKE TO HELP THIS? SOMETHING LIKE VALIUM BUT WITHOUT THE RX, LOL? IF ANYONE KNOWS OF SOMETHING FILL ME IN CAUSE IT GIVES ME HEADACHES, I GET SO AGGRAVATED.

[GoingToMakeIt]

It is normal but look into amino acids and vitamins. In the Health Pages there is info on them. Some can help calm etc...

[K Todd]

It's normal bro..!!

I'm comming up on day 8....there are times I want to hit a punching bags, times I have no energy, etc... up and down

BUT your already thru the 1st week of hell...it gets better (as many in here a living witnesses)....just try to Get Out Of the House, as much as you can....burning up energy is what works for me, then the outburst fades away!

Good Job on Day 9 brother!

Todd

[road2recovery]

welcome..congratson 9 days...that is GREAT.....I am a mother of 4, and i know exactly what you are saying....I felt so bad for taking it out on them, not that i abuse them lol...But got so aggravated and they could sense i wasn;t the same...I felt as bad as you..
I would go off for the smallest things, when using everything was ok...This is what i would do...i would go in the bathroom, look at myself in the mirror and just say a prayer, kind of talk to myself..lol, then come back out and try again...I also have step children that i love to death...I am glad u came here and asked this question, because not many times does this come up and i know it has to happen to most..
I am now am almost 7 months clean thanks to this forum....So stay with us, we will help you through.
Also when i feel that way i jump on here and ask for help or vent or cry whatever we have to do to stay clean!!!
good luck
r2r

[lucyred68]

Lsufan, it is natural to be uptight with what you have been through, although it can be very disturbing.  and the kids don't deserve it.  I hope you don't mind if I pray for you, cause I'm going to anyway!!

Lord, I pray thst You will calm Lsufan.  Help him to relax, and to see the beauty in the children You have blessed him with.  Remove the anxiety caused by the wd's from the poison he put in his system for all that time, and help him to forgive himself.  Wrap him in Your loving arms, and the children too. in Jesus name, amen

He will calm you if you let Him. Just call out to God when you feel it coming on.

Lucy