Is my son on meth?

[Shelly26717]

Hi,

My son has been acting oddly recently at least not like himself. The past few weeks he has been coming home very late, seems very energetic, started hanging out with kids that Im not familiar with. But the other day I grabbed him so I could speak with him and I noticed that his skin and teeth had become extremely unhealthy. Very worn down he looks.
I looked up some things on meth and some of these were symptoms or signs.
Im not an expert at this stuff but I need some help at least for my son.

Shelly

[scaredmom330]

I hate to say this but if he doesnt want help, nothing will help. he has to hit dirt bottom and ask for your help before it will do any good. my son is addicted to soma's and tough love is the only thing that seems to work with him. he is looking at jail time as we speak, it kills me but the one thing I have learned here is I am a victim of his addiction as is he. be strong pm me anytime you want to talk

[ochooked]

Sorry he was able to talk you out of it Shelly -  the kid probably needs help and needs you to be very strong right now---  not someone he can B/S.  Buy the test, have it ready, USE it.  All he is going to do now is to try and be more careful since he knows you are watching.  This is certainly not for the faint of heart, nor a trusting mom who enables.  The threat of a test is not going to stop him  He just learned that he can talk his way out of it.  Wish you all the best.

[Shelly26717]

I went up and asked him to take the test completely of guard. He asked me why I was making him take the test? I told him that I was suspicious of his actions lately and he kept saying the usual I cant believe this I would never stuff 19 year old kids would say. At this point I am pretty sure something is up and plan on making him take the test in a couple of days even though there are those things out there that can make the drug unnoticable. I am going to watch him super closely the next couple of days who he hangs out with, where he is going, if the doors locked in his room. Im pretty sure he has also suspected me of knowing something but of course he is not going to tell me. I just never really saw my son ever do anything like this I mean I have caught him smoking pot a few years back but we talked and I understand kids expieriment but I just never thought he would dabble in this deep.

[stephaniejo]

So... any results yet? I wanted to mention that light bulbs can also be used if there is no other opten. It is used by breaking off the metal end and then lighting it from the bottom. Sad... but true. So, if the test does come out positive and you decide to take everything away, just be aware of that.

[ochooked]

Yes Shelly --- Veyda is right --- If he takes the test you will know for sure --- If he refuses to take the test you will also know for sure --- either way, you win --- Please do not be manipulated or used to enable him further.  It is time for some straight forward answers from him.  All the best to you and please keep posting --- do not let yourself be used to let him continue using.

[Shelly26717]

I  just went and bought one of the test from CVS. The pharmacist did say that meth will most likely come up so thats good enough for me. My son left about 30 minutes ago so i went as fast as could to get the test. Now I feel a bit in shock that I am having to ask my son for a drug test but tough love will definitely help him in the long run. What if he refuses to take the test? Then will that be the sign that he is on something or doing something?

[ochooked]

RIGHT ON Mtgoat ---  this is exactly what a parent needs to do who is wanting to save her son --- it is called "tough love" and it often works when nothing else will.  All the best to you and your son.

[mtgoat911]

shelly, i am sorry to say this
but do not tell him that you are going to test him
there are so many drinks and pills he can take that will help him pass a drug test
if he has time to get one, the test will be a waste

[mtgoat911]

tonight when he gets in have a drug test waiting for him
goto wall greens and ask the pharmacist for a kit that test for cocaine, and speed, make sure to ask him if the test will show meth
if the pharmasist says that the test they carry will not show meth.
take him to the emergency room and ask for a drug test, believe it or not the er deals with this all the time
i wish you the best, my children are yound now, but i worry about them because addiction suns on both sides of the family
no one but me will admitt that, but its true

[lb87]

hope it all works out for you, the glass pipe is a sure sign he is doing something even if it isnt meth, have a word if i was you!

[mommy2be25]

Oh yeah... his pupils should be a big GIVEAWAY!!!

[mommy2be25]

It's never too late to help save your child from a life of drugs, and believe me, even if he is doing meth, he is not lost yet! First he is still at home, that's a start because when I got heavy into meth the first thing I did was run from any and all family and friends except the ones doing it with me. The glass pipe could be a problem. Is it clear? If you can get a look at it again hold it up and look at it close, if it's been used to smoke meth you will see what looks like crystalization on the inside. It's like when something freezes over. If you see that then it is definatley meth.

[Shelly26717]

Thank you so much,

I have looked through his room after he left and I did find a glass pipe wrapped in aluminum foil. I also have checked his bank account but nothing that substantial has been taken out. But when I come to think about it he has been asking me for money recently even though he has his own. Overall his appearance could be a lot better. Im just worried Im noticing now and if anything is too late.

[mommy2be25]

Yes, that could be a sign, but it could also mean a lot of other drugs or even alcohol is causing him to not care about his health or apperance.

Things I would look for if it were me... Is he eating? Is he loosing weight? Does he lock his bedroom door for long periods of time? and if so do you smell a strange odor? Look for anything he would use to smoke or shoot it... Like a glass pipe, needles, those sorts of things. Do you know where his money goes and if so is it going faster than it use to?