I saw a very touching quote on the list this morning:
'Love me when I deserve it the least, because that's when I need it the most'
Food for thought...
Take care
You need to do the right thing by you and leave unless he truly ants help and commits to professional treatment as well as NA. If he refuses I would recommnend that you leave. I hate to mention that but you have no choice.
There is a fine line between enabling and helping. Enabling is the worst thing that a loved one can do for an addict. Its time for some tough love and for attention to your own needs.
Thanks guys. I know I can't help him unless he wants help or at least admits that he has a problem. Going to a meeting myself might make me feel a little better. Thanks for the advice.
Hi! Until he is ready to stop, there is really not anything you can do. Once he is ready, you can support him, and we can tell you some things to get to help him. Until then, get to an Al Anon meeting to get some support for yourself!
Good luck! I'm sorry you are going through this! I know it is hard.
Hi, and welcome to the list.
Sorry to hear about your troubles.
Before you can do anything for him, he needs to admit that he's got a problem, and he needs to want to quit.
There is no amount of pressure you can apply to make him do this. He needs to want it.
You can make it clear that you're worried about him, and that you're there to help and support him. You can encourage him to talk, and make it clear that you're always there to listen.
You could also either encourage him to join this list, or 'accidentally' leave it on so he can see it. There are some really inspiring stories from other ex-users that might start to make him think.
Wishing you all the very best