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[bettermomma]

OMG! I am at a loss for words right now. I am dying inside, or so it seems. I've been put on the spot. My own grandmother, my mom, my dad, they all expect me to answer questions, about things that I don't know the answer to! I've found one trigger. Questioning. I can't tell you how badly I'd like to use right now. They bring up things that hurt me and expect me to tell them y they should be ginger with me? I know non addicts have little understing about addiction but PLEASE DONT PUT ME IN A PLACE WHERE I HAVE TO ANSWER JUST YET! I can't handle this right now! Not this time! Wtf am I supposed to do!? When under extreme pressure, I've always caved! Some one help me?!

[bettermomma]

Well I've answered what I was comfortable with and they seem to be ok with that. I told them that the details weren't important, all that matters is that, I've learned from my mistakes, and I'm happy with who I am now. That's the best thing that I think I've ever done. Now they know there are boundaries and I'm happy with that. Thanks for the advice y'all, it's much appreciated!



Momma

[Texas50881234]

Sometimes we just need to tell our families I'm not ready to discuss details and when I am I will be happy to answer ur questions.

[texaslady68]

Tell them until they walk a mile in your shoes then DONT JUDGE!!!

[bettermomma]

Thanks angel, I have really got to get this under control... thought I could do the q&a session with them like I did with my hubby, turns out... I'm not quite ready yet... thanks for your support, it really does mean a lot to me...

[all_alone1]

Bettermomma.....I know just how you feel........stress has been a huge trigger for me....my husband and his fals accusations always blow my mind....I have learned I need to stay away from him in order to control it.....I know that might be difficult for you to do...but maybe just some more time to heal is all you need in order to deal with them and their questioning.

I am here if you need someone to talk to honey

Angel

[IwillDoThis]

I'm so sorry, I am so new myself and luckily I don't have family who knows what is going on to deal with.  YOU posted and reached out for help instead of reaching for a pill, thats a good step Momma.  Can you lovingly tell your family to just back the heck up at this point in your recover, tell them you are fragile, don't have the answers they want right now and they need to love you and leave it for now.  PLEASE don't cave, I don't know where you are in recovery but every day behind you is one more day walking away from all those things that don't work.  Stay strong, you are worth it.