help for daughter

[kimbie]

My 23 year old has been in & out of rehab for heroin addiction. Our family has gone through all the phases of her addiction. Stealing, lieing etc. etc. anyway, she has come to me several times wanting to change her life & wanting to move back in with me only to go through AGAIN the stealing etc. etc. I know SHE has to want the help & I don't want to enable her at all! Anyway, she has been on her own for about 6 months & 4 day's ago she has come to me & has no place to go, wanting to change etc. etc. She has a step-dad that I have been married for 11 years. He's at his wits end with her as I am. I love her deeply & can't keep going back & forth with this. Calling crying, no where to go, for me to PLEASE help her. She say's she is not on drugs & I can't help but not to believe her. She say's she needs help. She wants to get on antidepressants but not sure if any doctor will prescibe her any with her addiction. She say's I will do everything you say Mom. As a mother I want to believe her. I don't want to make this about me but it also has been. We are wiped out as far as money. She say's she doesn't need to go in anywhere she really just wants to change her life. She is here now but it is putting alot of pressure on my marriage. I'm afraid! I don't know what steps to take?, I don't know if she is honest, she say's she needs me to believe in her. Any advise????????

[BonnieAnn]

I could not begin to imagine what you are going through. I read your post just now while I was having my morning coffee and I just sat here and cried.
I put on the screensaver and said a prayer for you.
I posted you yesterday to give you my perspective as the child, not the parent. My story was probably little or no comfort to you.
Now, that I have read more, I would not even pretend to know how to give you advise. Except, take care of yourself.

God Bless. Many hugs to you, Bonnie

[kimbie]

I hear everything all of you are saying & my heart goes out to the parents who have posted. There is a huge history. I have marchman acted my daughter 3 times. First time she was in 30 day's, 2nd time 10 day's, 3rd time 2 day's. Over crowding & they felt she was not a harm to herself. She is a good maniputlator! My self & family gathered almost 14,000.00 to put her into a Narconon program which she only stayed about 6 weeks. Jumped a balcony & escaped. She said she did want the help but she has had this boyfriend for 4 years & wanted to be with him. This last time of having her marchman acted the police found Heroin in vechicle, her & her boyfriend tested postive for Heroin use. Boyfriend got arrested daughter got Marchman acted. Boyfriend is now serving 18 months in jail & My husband & I heard when he gets out he is hunting us down. Not really scared much. That is when daughter went to friends & then asked to come back month's later. I have researched & researched this addiction. None of my family wants to deal with this anymore. Not to turn this on me or look for sympathy but have another problem... I went through Breast Cancer last year, double Mastectomy & cancer free! I went through 6 months of this & daughter came to see me only one time! I just found out yesterday I have Ovarian Cancer & Friday I am going to an Oncologist. I just don't know how much more I can take. My daughter wants to be here for me but I feel if she uses me at a time like this or maniputates me I won't be able to handle it. I HAVE to make this about me & she wants to step up & be here for me but scared & don't really trust her. Husband wants to get a nurse if I need it.Any advise??

[beachtowel]

you would not believe how many Methadone clinics there are in the Detroit area..........

There growing like weeds......it amazes me that its still all about money........

Methadone its legal, addictive....a big frigging money making machine.............

Our government should be so ashamed how they treat drug addicts.........

[NewLeaf]

Try telling that to an addict........... as you know they live moment to monent and at best day to day. 6 - 8 weeks of staying in control enough to check in daily so you arent bumped and 30 days off of a drug the ***system put you on in the first place because they won't pay for suboxone or an implant because they have been lobied by big greedy companies  is **** and you know it. There need to be changes in the system, reforms. Lets face it drugs, weather they are legal or illegal are cash cows for big companies and drug cartels............ who do you think the guys in office listen to when it comes to taking in the campaign funds????????????  Addicts on the streets, I think not.  

[beachtowel]

Mental Health is where a lot of funds come from for these rehabs......
and yes when people have to depend on state money for help there will be a line to stand it it is the way it is insurance cards and cash are taken first.........

But the help is there and I would go through all the bull**** I had to go through to get the help...
what is 6-8 weeks after all the years of h e l l        

[NewLeaf]

I agree getting people into the right rehab, behavior modification programs would be the best answer but if there is no money, who pays?  The state/county funded programs don't even touch on behavior modification and have a minimum of 6-8 weeks of wait list to get a "paid for" bed, not to mention all the hoops you have to go through to keep yourself on that waitlist, check in every day or you are bumped, can't be on methadone for 30 days because the doctors won't detox methadone but will detox heroin...... each time it is a slightly different story. let me tell you, this is where the work really lies, it is getting spending for real rehabilation and health care.

P.S. my daughter used up my inheritence on rehab programs before she was 21 so this kitty is empty, dried up, nada, gone............