help me please. my b/f is snorting roxy pills

[mattNbecky]

My b/f is crushing and snorting roxy's. he will spend up to $20.00 a pill. i cant get him to quit. he says he isnt addicted but when i asked him not to do it for only 3 days he didnt last. He gets terrible mood swings. can get very angry over the smallest thing. one day he says he takes them for pain the next its just because he wants to. every morning he wakes up after snorting he is in alot of pain. his legs knees, he just hurts everywhere. i believe its because of the pills he says its not. He will also get very horny and demand sex but he is unable to stay errect and that makes him mad. i know its the pills causing these problems but he wont admitt it. can someone please help me. i dont know what to do..

[LIZZIE LOU]

well...there is not a whole lot that YOU can do...first he has to admit that he is powerless over this drug.  my guess...from what you have described...is that he is addicted.

one of the most powerful things that YOU can do is not enable him.  dont make "idle" threats...say what you mean and mean what you say.  

[lostdreams]

Lizzie Lou is right, he needs to admit he as a problem first!!! My guess is that he is addicted, sounds very much like it, however he does sound like he is in denial, just like most of us have been at one point. Once he admits this then things can only get better. Pills wasnt my doc but the pains he is experienceing are more than likely w/d.

[mattNbecky]

i have researched the side effects of what he is doing to himself and i have shown him but he doesnt seem to care. I know he loves me and our daughter and i dont want to leave him i just need to figure out how to make him realise his problem. He says he is in control and could quit when he wants but like i said i asked him to give it 3 days so he could see all of the problems he is going through is because of the pills and he couldnt last through the second day.

[LIZZIE LOU]

of course he doesnt seem to care...this is the addiction speaking.  right now...there is no on more important than his ladyfriend "roxy".  dont get me wrong...he does love you and his daughter...but you are dealing with your b/f "the addict"...not your boyfriend of the past.

is he being prescribed these pills by a doctor?  you said he is paying upwards $20.00 a pill, right?  so he must be buying them off the street?  is this the person that you knew or is this a sign of someone who is addicted?

[Rose703]

I have to agree with everyone else that has already replied. Think of it this way, would a normal person, meaning not an addict, spend $20 for a pill off of the street? The answer is no. If his pain is that bad he would be seeing a doctor to get help. Honestly honey if he won't admit his problem then there's nothing you can do except make a decision to either stay with him, just like he is, or leave. It's a tough situation and I understand that but you must act in the best interest of you and your child. I would sit down and have a honest conversation with him and see how he reacts. Keep posting sweetie!! You will find alot of love and support on this forum I know I have and it has helped me tremendously!!

[newgirl2708]

You need help. Not help to help him, you need help for yourself. You need to figure out why you want to 'fix' him. You and your daughter will be fine. You are a smart woman and are kind. Two admirable qualities, they will get you through. He is not ready. You are, he is not. There is absolutely nothing you can do for him right now. You need to look to yourself. Do it for you and your daughter. Would you have your daughter around someone like me? Nope. I wouldn't have my daughter around him. But we do. Take a step back and re-read your post...Take a good look and be honest. You can not help someone by stepping into the darkness with them, stay in the light and let them come to you.
Good Luck, keep posting we're here for you,
newgirl

[Dieing2Live]

newgirl couldnt have said it any better. that last line sums everything up

[mattNbecky]

Thank you all for giving me advice. you are all right. i know i cant help him he has to do it for himself. i have sat down and talked with him. i work a full time i dont have much time to spare between work and my daughter for him. so my 2 days off a week we actually get time together. while talking to him the only reply i got was that if it really bothers me that bad he will not snort them on my days off. to me yes that is a big step. but at the same time not good enough. when i told him if he didnt get help i would leave, he told me i was wrong for saying that to him. if i really loved him i would accept him for who he is. leaving me feeling guilty like i did something wrong. we dont live together so him being around our daughter like that does not happen. he knows to not bring that to my house i will not lose my daughter for his doing. if i know he has it and is planning on doing it i will make plans for me and my daughter to do somethin just the two of us. she doesnt need to see him like that.    
      yes he just buys them off the street. and no its not the man i knew before. that was one of the reasons i fell in love with him. both of our dads were alcoholics. he never did any type of drug. i myself smoked dope when i was around 17. but my b/f use to pride himself on the fact that he never did anything.

[bose555]

I have just started to take my first Roxxy this morning and now I realise that I have a problem. I have been taking Perks for about 6 months , about 2 to 3 a day , they were from my doctor but I ran out so someone
gave me a Roxxy , me not realising just how bad they are. Is it true that 1 Roxxy is like taking 3 ,10s  perks.
I am a pro fighter and dont want to loose everything I have worked so hard for.

[Xandria]

Hopefully the first will also be your last...it's amazing how much it changes your judgment and character.  I wish you well.  The sooner you stop, the less you've taken, then the easier it will be.

[abuddy]

Always keep your gaurd up.  Since he is truley addicted he will do it everyday. Even on the days you hang out. When you are on a drug like this you have to take it daily or you will withdraw like crazy.  Imagine having the worst flu you've ever had thats how he will feel.  The longer he uses the harder it will be. Just stay on your toes and dont accept anything but quitting. Addicts will lie cheat steal and tellyou what they think you want to hear.  Good luck..

[sschne15]

i also have the EXACT same problem with my boyfriend (who is also my daughters father) he will do anythng to get the money for these pills and i feel like it is tearing us apart...he wont listen i dont know how to help him...i was even considering baker acting him....

[zackyz530]

i am a percocet addict. i eat  or snort 3 to 4 roxys a day. i have stopped them before and i belive the only way is cold turkey. i eat oxys,perk10s,vicodin and whatever i could find if roxys arent avaliable to me. My girlfriend has broken up with me because of these small, life controlling pills. I just dont know what to do anymore.i have gotten so bad  with them i need them to work,to even go to the store and deal with everyday life. im not in denial. i Know i am an addict. i dont know what to do anymore. i find myself being able to go for certain periods of time without them with a strong will power and i still do have my morals which baraccade the line of what ill do for a roxy. Im 18 years old goin nowhere fast.if anyone has any comments please...

[gyver424]

I know what your going through cuz im in the same boat as you when it comes to these pills. I need them for work and everyday life. I want to stop but there is noone in my life that can help me. Ive changed when comes to my attitude and i feel worse everyday. I can't sleep and eating is another problem. Ive lost my girlfriend and lots of friends over this little pill. My relationship now is the roxy. Sad huh? I'm here for you and i wish we could stop cold turkey together and beat this addiction once and for all.

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

I hear all of you folks telling me that you need these various flavors of pills to live, to work, and even to go to the store or out of the house. And I dont cast aspersions. I am one of you. BUT I found med help 2 years ago. In that time I have quit doing the pills. I have withdrawn and had PAWS .... I have relapsed and gotten back up again. Today I am happy with my family and friends.....I dont plan vacations around the number of days pills that I have available......I used both methadone and sub ... I finally found that the problem needed my committed involvement to resolve......And I did it cold turkey that time....You can do it and it can be done. I started doing opiates (China white) in 1969 during Vietnam .... so dont even start to whine about length of use .... Just concentrate on finding a life again...the keys are available.......

[Dezdon]

Zakky meet Gyver, Gyver meet Zakky,
  You two are in the same boat. You have everything in common. You say you want to quit but need support. I see alot of people here get clean from just this forum.  You two, start sending messages and P.M.ing each other. You two are now each other support.Talk openly about it, your fears and worries, set your clean date together and start the clean day togther. Share your withdraweles with each other, it REALLY helps. Add up the clean days togther. But you have to be open and honest with each other. Also, aftercare is important, go to an NA meeting, both of you. Hang alot here and post when things get real bad.
Wishing you the very best of luck, your too young to keep doing this to yourselves.
-Dez

[gyver424]

I love your thoughts and comments on what to do. Thank you for that. I want all of you that have read my thoughts to know a few things. I feel i'm addicted but i love the feeling it gives me because i work better on them and people say im very outgoing also,even though they don't know i'm on them. Is that bad that i say that these pills are making my life better? My question to all of you is as long as i dont do more than 2 a day why cant i just make it part of my life? Cuz i know what's going to happen when i do go off of them........ill pick up drinking heavy again and my life will be depressing and boring. Who can answer these questions? Please all of you don't hate someone like me that just speaks the truth.

[gyver424]

hi.......it's me again(gyver). I feel like i spend all day all night on this computer reading peoples problems that relate to mine. Is that a problem i have or what? I would love to talk to someone that is just like me. I guess has no life and wishes to talk about their problems and try to help other people problems. I just did a profile and saw that alot of people are in this program which is unbelievable in my eyes. I never knew that so many people had this problem like me. So please someone out there please contact me so i can talk to you. Ill be eager and waiting till then.,.....................

[gizzy32]

Nobody here is going to tell you to take them so you don't drink. We will also give you any support you need and not judge, but you need to find out why you said your life is depressing and boring sober? This post started almost a year ago. You can post your own question and im sure you will get a lot more feedback. On the main forum you will se post a question and you can make your own. Good luck, great place for support

[gyver424]

This is a comment going out to anyone that has or is addicted to roxys. i know that many of you are or have taken more than i have in a day but im in the same boat as you when it comes to getting off these damn pills!!!!!!! Im taking (4) a day and i want off them but my withdrawals are really bad!!! Instead of the flu symptons or the pains in my back im having something entirely different. Im having bad bad dreams and no sleep at all when i dont take these pills. My dreams are nightmares and im sleeping an average of 4 hours a day. So i go back to them so i can sleep. This is a horrible thing and i need help and support. Please is there anyone out there??????? My name is Gyver. 911

[gizzy32]

I hope you get some more support gyver and there are some here addicted to roxy's. Most of us here went through having bad dreams, scary dreams and your lack of sleep is normal when w/ding. I have told you that i think coming off 4 is doable, you just have to make it far enough to see the positive changes. I hope somone responds back to you as they know more about pills than me. You can do this. What is the longest you have stayed off of them?

[gizzy32]

P.S. Like it told you in your pm, posting your own question on here will get a lot more feedback. This post was started almost a year ago and chances are it will get overlooked. We are all here to support you. Good luck.

[kmbidelman]

I know about what you girls are going through. I myself live with my b/f who is not only a roxy addict, but a methadone/xanax addict as well. He snorts and takes these pills in combinations, which I know is dangerous. We have many talks, but that is the problem. It is all talk and no change/actions. I feel I am in the right place to discuss this and have people who understand. He states he can't work unless he has his supply. He also sayd I will never understand what it feels like to go through withdrawls. He is right. I won't ever know, but I have told him that I am here for him if he wants to quit. Just waiting....not wasting time.

[gyver424]

I started this week off with trying to get off roxys and sending my x-girlfriend out with them because both were bad news. Well my feelings have gotten worse because i miss my x because even though she and i werent dating she was very supportive of me. Now im going thru the worse time ive ever had and depression is coming and i dont know what to do for myself??? i wish that this program was here where i live in person because at least i would have some people to hang out with so i could get thru these horrible times. Please someone out there help me because this is not what i wanted and without the pills im a wounded target that is in trouble as time goes by.............................................911