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[topper42099]

again i ask anyone how do i inform my partner of the struggles of coming off methedone and what it did to me/ more what i am becoming again and that i will keep improving i posted this earlier it gives a lil history there so please she needs to know i am dedicated and if not for past experiences she may have more hope...but this is a whole other ball game and i could use she could use tips on how to relax/time to see.......please help us....its nearly valentines day we are a fresh blessed couple....sincerely topper42099

[Clamity2]

Honestly when I told my husband he said he already knew. He didn't have much to say in the encouragement department. It has been so many years that I was using he probally doubted I was sincere. Also he accused me of using after I stopped and I wasn't. So be honest but plan don't the results of what your honesty will produce. Be honest and then do this for yourself.
We will be here for your encouragement and advice. A new life awaits you!!!
God Bless

[WhoIsThisPerson]

Coming out to my husband was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.  I thought about it for MONTHS before I actually did.  I was like an actor in a movie where I'd approach him with every intention of telling him then I'd either turn around before getting to him or actually get to him, chicken out, and ask him some stupid question.  He would always stare at me like "what?"  The only reason I did is because I was having such bad wd's and was so emotional because of it that I just ended up blurting it out.  It's so surprising how supportive he was.  Only one other person knows about my addiction and she was very supportive too.  But the downfall is they don't understand how and to what extent an opiod addict is.  They think that you have an addiciton like smoking but if you have the will power you can kick it.  They don't undestand what a MENTAL addiction it is.  I think you do need to tell her in the exact way that oxy said BUT I also think you need to explain that they need to do their research too.  Explain not only your feelings but that she needs to ASSIST you not just listen to you.  I wish you good luck, you will feel so much better once you tell her.  

[flmagi]

Perhaps if you could get her to read alot of the posts here on the forum. Maybe she'll realize we're not bad people, just got ourselves in bad situations, that we're not happy about our addition and are struggling to get clean. Alot of people who have loved ones that are addicted have come to this forum to get a better understanding. Good luck.

[oxyaddict420]

I  guess I am not 100% clear on hwat your question for advice is..  IF I am reading this right it is to be able to approach her and to express to her your point of views on this methadone addiction?

If so, then you need to sit her down and say" I love you sao much and just need you to listen to what I need to tell you!  The only thing I ask is that you do not interupt me, and after I am done you can say whatever and I will not interupt you either OK?!  Then just be as graphic and vulgar expressing every emotion and pain and fear the best way you can to relate this to her.. Using analogies that make her understand better always is a good thing..  

BEST OF LUCK