hopeless when it going to end?

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My partner been on meth around 50mls for a long time then now he changed to subatex 0.4mg for sometime. But he been to detox such as doing himself at home no successed then went to NHS clinic he was so depressed because they put him with other session like mental issue problem which really put him even more miserable. in this case of course it wont helped at all. The Dr. n nurses werent a great helped or responsibility either. always missed his prescribsion then he had to on n off to buy the drug from elsewhere. Now he is on 0.4mg but he still go to buy some more or others that he told me because the he missed the Dr. appointment then they reduced even more low dose instead like they used to cut-off. I felt so trapped and confused because I dont do drug and I dont know nothing about any drugs at all. he made me insercuirty about the finacial as for the past he stole alots of money from me or stuffs. I forgave him but I found so difficuilt to trust him again. now I known he tried to honest with me but sometime I really so confused he got subatex why sometimes he still needs more to buy elsewhere even knowning we dont have spare money. Thats why sometime I will kick off as I felt betray all over again n again. Be honest I never deal with any like this in my life before. I tried hard to understand him but it isnt easy to believed when it will be the end? I start losing any hope now. I have been with him just over 8 years. I couldnt tell no one a certainly he wont let me too. I only keep it for myself so long. I was taken depression tablet for nearly a years about 3 - 4 years ago. Then I stopped it slowly by myself in my own way. I was taken 200mg each day because I couldnt handle his drugs, financial and family and work. I felf so ashamed my man on drug and stolen my money for his own interest. He promised he come clean many times I tried so hard to believed and understand and to supported him. But he still sneaking sometime I really lost and I really dont know how long more that I can stand by him? sometime he even disappeared for a night. I dont really sure he is hook up again because I am so afraid he gonna to screw up everytime he sees if we have spare money then he will lost it even he deny it of course but I cant really trust him in this matter.May be to others will thinking I dont give him enough support trust me or not what he put me through in these 8 years I am still with him. All I want to know when or how he going to stop for good. I dont think I am asking too much. Please I really need a good advice. Thank you

gnarly_1 · Answer

HI well my take on it he is just using the sub long enough to keep the withdrawals off goes off of it then goes out all night and uses .....I might be wrong but im an addict and know how we think and he still has addictive behavior going on the missing mony is the first red lag the second one is him staying out all night your man is using hun and untill he decided to quit your life is going to be like this ....I would sugjest going to a alonon meeting its for family members of addicts it will help you set up boundrys with him so your not enabling him to keep this up your going to need to hide the money for one and if he is on sub he needs a doctor to give it to him not a street dealer
I wish you luck with all of this you have to decide for yourself whats right for you but living like this is not living ........Gnarly

justsaynotodrugs · Answer

He most of the time wont quit till he hits the botton. When he gets sick of living on drugs.This takes some people a long time but some do recovery from their addiction. It not only will hurt him it will hurt everybody around him you are going through pain that is caused by addiction that he suffers from. So you have got a choice stay with him and continue to be hurt or move on with your life. Hope it works out for the best. Pray about the problem.