how to commit my sister

[donnaweed]

my sister is doing alcohol and pills [over the counter meds] she basically passes out most of the day saying shes tired, also when shes on whatever it is she doesn't even know where or who shes with, plus thinks everyone is out to hurt her. This has been going on for years. She went to jail for 6 months for her 3rd DUI, looked great and then the day she was released went to a liquer store and brought vodka and whatever and got drunk as a skunk , hasn't stopped since. In and out of hospitals for pancreatis and liver failure. Nothing anyone says can make her stop. She has been fired from so many jobs I can't count. She is going to die , her body is shutting down amd her brain is fried. She's behind in her mortgage 3 months, no health insurance. Now how do help her without her losing her condo?

[CATUF]

If I had a sister who was suffering in the manner you described I would go to Al Anon meetings.  I've never been to one myself, but I have some very close friends in AA who also go to Al Anon due to addiction/alcohol problems of a spouse or child -- they tell me that what they get from Al Anon has been just as important for their lives as becoming (and living) a clean and sober life themselves.

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[empathy323]

Actually you can sign an adult in trust me I have done it.  If the person is seen as a danger to themselves or others you can sign them in.  They are then kept for at least 72 hours for evaluation.  So if the 72 could help and you think someone could get through to her that would be great but often 72 hours isn't enough if someone does not want help.

[ochooked]

I agree that the condo is probably the last thing that needs to be saved.  She is the first -- If it were possible to commit her, then yes, it may help to save her -- however it is probably not possible --- You should try not to enable her or save her condo ---  Just keep telling her that you love her and do not want to see her die ---  You are right and she is dying a slow death.  We are so sorry that you (and she) are going through this.  It hurts so badly when you must watch helplessly while a loved one makes the choices that destroy themselves.   Keep posting and reading ---  I will pray for you and your sister.  Please try this yourself -- sometimes only God can help.  All the best.

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

I am really sorry for your situation, dude......but you cant forcefully do anything for her.....support her emotionally and pray that she sees the light..........I also address a li ver problem and it really hurts to see someone trash theirs with no thought by drinking so much.....I do hope and pray that she wakes up......

[bluespence]

I am so sorry you are going through this, but since your sister is an adult, you can't commit her and even if you did, she could sign herself out. The only way anyplace would keep her is if she was suicidal or homicidal. Losing her condo is the last thing you should worry about. I know that sounds cold, but she will lose so much more if she doesn't help herself. Just keep posting to get support for yourself. I would suggest attending al-anon for yourself...but sad to say until she wants help there is not a thing you can do..she has to do it for herself. Now you can be by herside to support her, but again that would have to be after she chooses to get the help she needs! Good luck!~